[OldPilot]

I have no plans for any long term relationship, or finding unconditional love, short of getting another dog.

Hmmm so you are standing then.

Or do you call it something else?

[Thundarr]

OP and Braveheart kill me. I'd love to have a couple drinks with you guys sometime as I'm sure it would be a blast!

RCR, your second-to-last post had me pretty down at first until I got to the 10 and 20% part.  I'll sit the difference and say that my research says 15% but its all relative.  If I thought for sure I really had a 1 in 5 chance of reuniting my family I'd throw a party!  I can live with those odds, and I have to think my skill set would tip them even further.  But, this being MLC I may be at a huge disadvantage. 

I have some analysis on the brain stuff Kikki posted but will get to that later.  I also want to run this by our NP to get her take on it.  I DO tentatively support this concept......

[twilightzone]

Have to admit.  Quite an interesting discussion.  A topic that, I am sure, is foremost in members minds.

You go on with your life, letting it take you where it will, but all the time you know that your MLCer is out there, proceeding through his/her journey.  God's will be done.

[Braveheart]

I have no plans for any long term relationship, or finding unconditional love, short of getting another dog.

Hmmm so you are standing then.

Or do you call it something else?

I'm not standing, my marriage is over, and can't see any scenario where I would want to reconcile with my X. If and when I meet somebody I would like to have a relationship with, I'll go for it. To date I've just not met anyone that interests me enough to bother.

[Braveheart]

Have to admit.  Quite an interesting discussion.  A topic that, I am sure, is foremost in members minds.

You go on with your life, letting it take you where it will, but all the time you know that your MLCer is out there, proceeding through his/her journey.  God's will be done.

I guess what I've been trying to say is, whether you are religious or not, you just have to "let it go" , look after yourself and kids if you have them. The MLC'er is beyond understanding on a rational level, you have to let them ride the Crazy Train and stay off of it yourself.

[Slow Fade]

The MLC'er is beyond understanding on a rational level, you have to let them ride the Crazy Train and stay off of it yourself.

I agree. For myself every once in a while I find myself on the Crazy Train wondering how I got there and jumping off! Kind of like a ride at an amusement park. You think you can handle it so you get on and then once it gets started you yell LET ME OFF!!!! 

[OldPilot]

I have no plans for any long term relationship, or finding unconditional love, short of getting another dog.

Hmmm so you are standing then.

Or do you call it something else?

I'm not standing, my marriage is over, and can't see any scenario where I would want to reconcile with my X. If and when I meet somebody I would like to have a relationship with, I'll go for it. To date I've just not met anyone that interests me enough to bother.

YUP my marriage was over at bomb drop, so was everyone elses here too.

[BB64]

I don't want my old relationship back, it had flaws that I know will not be there again. I want a new relationship with my' new ex' when he comes to his senses! We should both be better once it's all over. I don't like him much at the moment and if he asked me to get back together tomorrow, I would say no. God, I do not want a lunatic as a partner!!!
But, I believe we had true love and that true love never dies. Besides, you cannot help who you fall for, and, Braveheart, you might just fall for her all over again if and when she comes back to her senses. YOu  just cannot rule that possibility out. Unless you can read into the future, if so, could you please tell me if I'm ever going to be rich, please?

[Braveheart]

I don't want my old relationship back, it had flaws that I know will not be there again. I want a new relationship with my' new ex' when he comes to his senses! We should both be better once it's all over. I don't like him much at the moment and if he asked me to get back together tomorrow, I would say no. God, I do not want a lunatic as a partner!!!
But, I believe we had true love and that true love never dies. Besides, you cannot help who you fall for, and, Braveheart, you might just fall for her all over again if and when she comes back to her senses. YOu  just cannot rule that possibility out. Unless you can read into the future, if so, could you please tell me if I'm ever going to be rich, please?

That's the difference between myself and others, I don't believe in "True Love" or want any sort of relationship with my X.
I've been madly in love several times in my life, as have many of my friends. All it generally turns out to be is infatuation, with wonderful attributes given to our hearts desire they didn't really have, which becomes apparent only after the rose colored glasses come off ;~)

Of my X coming back to her senses? Well, I found out after BD it turns out she treated the guy before me exactly the same way, she packed her stuff and left one weekend when he was away, he came back to an empty apartment.

[BB64]

Wow...