I'm not sure, my situation is much different to yours.
I do think that sometimes it might be good to revert the same question to them....''What do YOU want for our daughter?''
I don't have children, but I think this is a great response. Too many times the MLCers leave all of the important things on our shoulders to manage, and as a mother to a small child, she needs to have an opinion on this. Plus, it shows her you are listening to her. If she is able to express something ("I don't know" may really be her answer), you have the opportunity to respond with either alternatives or concerns. I wouldn't offer up your honest feelings at this point because I think it would be seen as pressure and not accomplish what you ultimately need - coming up with a real solution to daycare.
I'm not sure where you live, but you may be able to find a listing of home daycares in your area you could interview for potential placement. My MIL is a provider, and she is on a list in our county that parents can research. Costs are usually a little lower with those, and you can interview first to see if it's a fit. Just a thought.