[Braincell77]

Albatross- She certainly does have her moments!! Strangely she is being more civil , even pleasant despite her occasional outbursts. She has been quite flirty the last week but without the cocky attitude............but then she did say the 'I might want to be a $l()t' speech which did take the shine off a little bit if I am being completely honest!
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[the_little_bee]

oh some of these are so funny Thank God there is some humour in these awful situations. It also makes me realise that my H hasn't even said anything that bad compared with some others. Early days yet tho...

Mine have been the typical:

'I've been unhappy for years'
'I'm unhappy with you'

Amazingly he apologised after those two.

'I don't know' (a lot)
'I got thinking about what more is there?' (to life...?)

Also:

'I want children, but not with you' (that hurt)

and weirdest of all.... because I had to quit my part time job which I love to go and move in with my parents 3 hours drive away:

'I could pay for you to rent somewhere so you can keep your job' (how is that practical...? I don't earn enough to support myself even without paying rent)

The dog thing is interesting too. I have the dog with me (thank God), but he has completely detached from him, I hadn't realised until I saw the other dog related comments.

[Breakingthecycle]

Now I look back, I've been getting the "I don't know" for a long time.  Drives me insane . I used to say before hand, this requires a yes or no answer, ask the question and still get the I don't know answer.  I honestly think he does not know, he is that confused!  It doesn't seem to apply to work situations though, that I have noticed.

[onlyjo]

i love reading these--i have had a few doozies, and posted them earlier--just remembered this one:

"you don't wear enough sunscreen"
WTH?

OK, so that's what the problem has been all this time--i haven't been slathering on sunscreen 24/7.  silly me.
onlyjo

[i can and will cope]

I remeber my h said I just have to do this??? he then said other things like you do someone a favour by marrying them coz their pregnant funny that together nearly 25 years but thats why he married me ...then he denied saying it

just script  like a lot of other things i think

oh and one time i remeber he had a paddy my son and i (son was 23 then looked at each other in disbelief) as my h stamped his foot and said IM NOT TALKIN TO YOU was just like a 7 year old

[toughtimes]

My h muttered something about wasting his time with my stupid friends, watching too much television and having to be around my awful sisters. So we watched too much rubbish tv when he first met me in our twenties and he had to talk to stupid inane people. I guess the people I was friends with just weren't furthering his career enough and held him back in the same way I did.
I just remembered He had sky installed just before he left too and I have never watched it, so I can't be accused of being a stupid person that only watches TV. I never wanted a TV at all, he was the one who bought the big telly.

They say such ridiculous things, ill thought out and false. All projection.

[Venus]

Fascinating stuff on this thread!
We used to dog sit my FIL's very cute, friendly, adorable dog, a Yorkshire terrier. My H absolutely loved him, staying up half the night once, when the dog was ill.  And then only a few months ago when a friend was talking to H and mentioned the Yorkshire terrier, H said "it's only a dog"!   
That convinced our friend that there is something wrong with H.

Also, H bought a rose bush and planted it in a pot in the garden in memory of his mother. For the last 6 years, he has nurtured this plant, and fed it and tendered it.  It has bloomed beautiful roses every year.  Alas this year, no roses, H has totally abandoned his mum's rose bush too.

Love & Light xx

[Joseph of Arimathea]

I am trying to compile a list of the "common" things that our spouses have said/bombshells. I've started the list with the following.

Things prodigals say:

I love you but I’m not in love with you.
We got married too young/fast.
I never loved you.
You are better off without me.
I’m done. I’m never coming back.
Move on. Now is your chance to see someone else.
I want out, give me what is mine
You need to get on with your life as I am with mine as I am now happy
I have taken care of people my whole life, now it's time for ME to have fun
We had problems before the other person…

[CruiseControl]

I loved this one on BD:-

If you hadn't of snooped you wouldn't have found out, then it would have run it's course and nobody would have been the wiser

I'm sorry I got caught, I'm NOT sorry I did it
Just let me go
Don't fight for our marriage
We've never been happy
If we hadn't have had D16, we wouldn't have stayed together. - (Mmmmm 18 years it took you to work that out?)

[1Cor.13]

I loved this one on BD:-

If you hadn't of snooped you wouldn't have found out, then it would have run it's course and nobody would have been the wiser

I'm sorry I got caught, I'm NOT sorry I did it
Just let me go
Don't fight for our marriage
We've never been happy
If we hadn't have had D16, we wouldn't have stayed together. - (Mmmmm 18 years it took you to work that out?)

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"You need to apologise to my Girlfriend!"   


1Cor13 (married 20 years, and married still..)