[toughtimes]

Before he left my h said "the problem is that I don't like anyone else as much as I like you" .... What?

[Standing in Patience]

You should find someone that makes you happy. I always want you to be happy (well I was happy before h).
I love you but I am not in love with you.
I have fallen out of love with you.
We have been unhappy for years (meanwhile you made love to me the week before you left).
She is my friend. And  I have known her for a long time. We have a lot in common (yes, you are both cheating).
I am deliriously happy now. No I am very depressed.
It can't be me. It's not stress. It's not work. It's not the children. Therefore I have figured out, it is you.

[WeepingWillow]

If you hadn't of snooped you wouldn't have found out, then it would have run it's course and nobody would have been the wiser

me:  "If I hadn’t found out, could you have just continued on like this for years?"
him: "I don’t know...prob’ly!"

[WeepingWillow]

BD day
ME:   When's the last time you talked to _--X-X-X-X----__??
HIM:    I don't know...a While!
(how bout 15 minutes ago...here's the printout from cell ph records)

Next Day
HIM: I'm just not happy
ME:  How long have you felt that way?
HIM:  I don't know...a While!

[Joseph of Arimathea]

Those are great replies. There is a clear double mindedness and a denial of reality.

[i can and will cope]

i just have to do this

you do someone a favour by marrying them because they are pregnant (funny how we were married for 22 years ) you had an affair before and begged to come back 18 years ago because you missed me ?

I dont care if I never see you again or son

 a lot more but even more hurtful then denies saying any of them ? 

[LoveMeMyself]

How about:

I've been used by you and everybody in YOUR family.  I wasn't appreciated.

[Lanzo]

W on OM#1

“He was someone I’ve known for years but he has recently taken an interest in me”.

Actually he was someone she picked up in a bar a couple of weeks before.

[Joseph of Arimathea]

That is a really good point. My wife also has said some really crazy things and denies saying them.

"Now's your chance to be with other women"
"I never said that"

I have seen my wife change "channels" from crazy talk to normal in a heartbeat when I prayed while she was talking.

She kicked me out of the apartment:
I don't love you, never loved you.
etc.
The apartment is in my name, get out.

So my daughter and I packed everything for ourselves and two youngest and moved it out into storage the next day.
"Why did you do that? I never kicked you out? I meant go for a walk and give me space."

[i can and will cope]

he told me he used to care about hurting me and now he hates me and doesnt care what happens to me, then the next ime denied it again

he also said I hurt him when i told him that he said our marraige of 22 years was a sham he said our marriage was never a sham , you have changed ? you are someone I dont want to be with now, (funny you walked away from the person you want me to be for another woman??) bat $h!te crazy as others on here say ,

I cant belive some of the things they come out with and then deny it.  woman and man ?? hoope you and your d are ok?