[LettingGo]

OW is always a female version of them....throw in some Mommy traits too!! Later on you will hear that ow is too much like them..."and not in the good ways"

[patience.of.a.saint]

OW is always a female version of them....throw in some Mommy traits too!! Later on you will hear that ow is too much like them..."and not in the good ways"

My thinking at the time is that I wouldn't want a male version of me so why the heck would he want a female version of him? It was then that I realized there had to be something bigger going on.

I can't wait until he tells me she's too much like him. He already complains about her 3yr old getting up at 6:30am. I pretended like I didn't hear that comment as I was secretly chuckling to myself...GOOOO 3yr old...show him what you got! He says he hates kids so obviously it's a match made in heaven.

[in it]

EXOW was EXACTLY like him- his dark side. If he'd picked her (like he told me he took a wrong turn with me 32 years ago)-he'd be in prison right now.

I am somewhat like him but I stayed in the LIGHT it's been MY influence that kept him on the straight and narrow as much as possible-he says it was the kids.

He believes in NOTHING bigger than him.

[onlyjo]

hey all you LBSs out there...
i posted the ridiculous things my MLCer said on a thread way back--i'll have to go and find it so i can laugh.
i am CRYING i am laughing so hard--CT2014--HATE the way you eat tacos.  i am really having trouble breathing I...i always like to read this thread from time to time, just because i know it will make me laugh.  and really, laughter IS the best medicine...
onlyjo

[star1514]

I've been reading these script threads all day and they have been so eye opening and entertaining.  I am new and haven't posted my story yet but wanted to share a couple of gems I've heard over the last few months:

When I busted him on having and affair and questioned him what happened - "It was only oral and it only happened 3 times."  The A equivalent of "officer, I've only had two beers"

Upon leaving to "stay at his mom's" for the third time in a month earlier this week -  "We have no spark.  There is no intimacy, no connection"  Then 5 minutes later "We spend too much time together.  I can never do anything by myself."

Other contradictions over the months - "You want too much, you are too materialistic, always trying to keep up with the Joneses."  "You have no ambition in life and I don't think you can handle how ambitious I am.  I want a nicer house, more money and you don't"  "Me leaving is really going to alter your lifestyle, not mine.  I'll be happy in a little house with just my Harley."  Hmm, we live in a big house that he picked out.  And when he quit his good job a couple years back to start a restaurant, my a$$ worked two jobs because he wasn't making any money.  I spent the first several years of our marriage getting a masters degree to make our lives better.  No ambition...

Told me the other day "I'm not sure if there ever was chemistry with us.  It was exciting at first because we had some career success and we surpassed all our friends with the stuff we got.  Then they started catching up to us and it got boring."  And I'm the materialistic one...

"I want to live, not just exist."  Don't we all!  (I think I saw this one word for word on someone else's post)

My H doesn't talk about the OW because he maintains it is over and leaving "isn't about her, it's about all these problems we have."  What problems?  "I don't know."  If he was comparing her nasty porn star a$$ to me, I would throw up, so I guess mark one in the win column for me.

The first time we spent about 12 days apart and he was "at his mom's", he came back and said "I missed you but it was liberating!"  What did you do while gone that was so liberating?  "I can't remember."  Liberating most likely because he had to lie to one less person for two weeks.

"We go to Panda Express too much for dinner"

[Thunder]

Mine said "You NEVER initiated sex."  So not true but...
I replied "In the 28 years that we have been together have I EVER turned you down?"
He screamed in my face...NO, but you never initiated it!!"

Then I got "You never really loved me."
I replied "Why on earth would I have stayed with you all these years if I didn't love you?"
Again he screamed "I have no idea!"

"You'll find someone else within 3 weeks.  You don't do well on your own."
It has been 3 years and 3 months now and I'm still on my own and doing pretty good.  : )

When I think back on all the ridiculous things he said in the beginning I really have to laugh.  He was trying so hard to come up with an excuse for wanting out.  No wonder it makes us crazy.
I would occasionally ask him why again was he filing for divorce and his reason was different every time.  Like he forgot the last reason so he had to come up with different one. 
Wish I had wrote them all down.   

[really???]

I also have a few gems....
I didn't take care of your love like I should have
I know when ow's gone (she supposedly has a terminal kidney disease, that she was going to die from) that was four years ago, and your with someone who appreciates you I will be alone and I will take what I deserve.. Really, he wanted me to pray for her illness. Well a miracle must have occured because H just came back from her country, guess it was thier second honeymoon...

[SSG]

OW is always a female version of them....throw in some Mommy traits too!! Later on you will hear that ow is too much like them..."and not in the good ways"

Funny...in H and OW secret FB messages they kept remarking how they were both so much alike, in so many ways...her words:  A match made in heaven, written in the stars   

SSG

[Crazytrain2014]

I have a few more to add.. 

The usual. I was planning on leaving you 6 months ago, 2 weeks ago, 5 years ago 11 years ago. Wtf? I should have gotten him roller blades.

I'm leaving to become a better dad. If he wasn't currently such a pathetic excuse for a father this would be side splittingly funny. Actually, he was leaving to get laid.

You've never supported me (he worked about 4 years out of our 11 yr m).  I was breadwinner.

I never got over the fact that you didn't take the baby one afternoon when you got home from work 10 yrs earlier. Followed by "you need to get over your dad's death ( 6 months prior)

I thought we were going to be together for ever. Well we could have until you decided to leave.

I do everything. (Turned on the washer one time in 6 years.)

You are preventing me from joy and happiness said the man with clinical depression who also said he hadn't had a happy day in his life. The kids will love to hear that:)

[Crazytrain2014]

Oops. I forgot another.  " I hate that you try to save money."