[living with Hope]

Question - My teenage son does not believe in "Mid Life crisis". He will not listen to reason about his Father. He just sees a selfish A**hole who has abandoned his family.  This teenage son is very angry and is screaming at me tonight to open my eyes that my husband has changed and he is a jerk and never coming home.  My son now also believes that we will never be a family ever again and he should have the right to opt out of family events like his Father. (great role model).

For those mentors who have teenagers, how did you try to explain or deal with the fall out of this all?

Thank you for your help.

ps/ the son is refusing counselling again. He hated it the last go round.

answered on thread:  http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3920.msg239308#lastPost

[Searching4Answers]

I really need some advice on my thread:

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3475.90

[Madmax]

Haven't posted in a while.  Could use some guidance on my thread
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3608.60

Thanks.

answered on your thread.

[Strongwind]

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/empowered-love/2013/01/29/question-answer-show-can-narcissists-be-loving

I need to understand this better compared to MLC. My H matches all of these things from Melanie Tonia Evans. I can't be a stander if my H is a Narcissist and maybe standing is not the best option for most LBSes?  Please help.
SW


From xyzcf...answered on your thread

[i can and will cope]

hi sorry I have posted a new thread but not sure if I have done it correctly please could someone check didnt want to have to post on here 

Done [by OP] 

[Ready2Transform]

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/empowered-love/2013/01/29/question-answer-show-can-narcissists-be-loving

I need to understand this better compared to MLC. My H matches all of these things from Melanie Tonia Evans. I can't be a stander if my H is a Narcissist and maybe standing is not the best option for most LBSes?  Please help.
SW

I'm going to quote directly from RCR from the "Newbies, Read This" thread at http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=1149.0:

Exceptions & Gray Areas
In my time coaching on forums I have only seen 2 situations where I was familiar enough and felt that divorce would be better. In both situations the Standing spouse (unknowingly) described their spouse’s as Narcissists. MLCers often display a higher than typical level of Narcissistic attributes during the crisis, but the histories described in each situation implied long-standing emotional and verbal abuse that sounded like Narcissism. I’m not a Psychotherapist and I did not meet the MLCers, so my judgment was based only on the words from the Standers and I did not tell either of them they should not Stand; that was and remains their decision.

Here's another of her links about NPD:  http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_personality-disorder_narcissistic.html

Essentially, the decision is still yours, as only you truly know your history with this man.  If he didn't do a 180 flip in personality, if not immediate, at least over a short period of time, then that leans more toward NPD, and will probably always be a part of him.  If this is something that came on quite suddenly, it may be MLC, which displays NPD at its worst, but does not seem to be permanent from the tales outside of the tunnel we hear.

More important than what his mental state is though - decide what is best for YOU.  If you're having doubts about standing, that's healthy and normal.  You may find as you soul search that standing isn't your best choice, and that this "grace period" as some call it where you've allowed yourself to consider it has ultimately put you on your path to healing into a future without him.  Either way, we are here for you.

[Searching4Answers]

Things are moving rather quickly right now and I am trying to make sense of it, any advice would be greatly appreciated:

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3475.100

[Disneyme]

Need someone to just say something to make me not go crazy!

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3753.0

[Disneyme]

Can someone find a link to cycling? Article blog whatever?

[FindingJoJo]

Can someone find a link to cycling? Article blog whatever?

Is there a specific area you were looking at?  Is it cycling in the MLCer or the LBSer?  I think that the articles as a whole describe different types of cycling and chaotic behavior.  Often if you google cycling in Mid Life Crisis you can find this information in the search and the first one hits the blog that RCR has created.

http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview.html

I posted this article for you as it showed up in the google search.