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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: No Contact
#110: February 25, 2014, 04:48:10 AM
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Re: No Contact
#111: February 25, 2014, 07:08:04 PM
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact
#112: February 27, 2014, 01:36:02 PM
We talk about giving our power away on here. This simplifies it some

((((HUGS))))

http://yourkickasslife.com/featured/7-ways-youre-giving-away-your-power
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact
#113: March 05, 2014, 02:39:11 PM
http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/12-ways-to-keep-up-with-quot-no-contact-quot-after-a-breakup-459868.html

This one has the phrase to describe the "wanting to be friends thing" this way...

It's like having your mother tell you your dog died, but letting you know you can keep it....
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact
#114: March 09, 2014, 09:08:03 PM
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It's like having your mother tell you your dog died, but letting you know you can keep it....

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Re: No Contact
#115: March 10, 2014, 03:20:07 AM
Thought you'd like that Calamity-

Of course these MLcers would like to stay friends with us! Say horrible things, harass us until our peace of mind is totally annihilated, have someone to blame for their misery, cheat on us, LIE, pretty much do whatever they want to and then we just say " "Oh that's ok I understand. You're going through something right now"

I don't think the vows that were taken translate " for better or worse" include abuse to define the worse part. The worse part is something two people face TOGETHER.

 The bigger question is WHY would we want to be friends with THEM and continue to have them treat us the way they do?

With friends like them? Who needs enemies?

 I genuinely believe this is about the only way you can salvage anything in the aftermath. The less damage you allow to YOURSELF the better the chance of someday they wake up and realize what they lost and MAYBE make their way back.

They need a really big time out...and it works out pretty well for us also!
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact
#116: March 13, 2014, 10:33:38 AM
New reason for NC during this insanity we may be dealing with.

Mlcer's know they are messed up and will stop at nothing to prove you are the crazy one.

I was recorded by the exH after he did everything in his power to infuriate me.

  DO NOT meet with them without a witness .....assume they MAY have some kind of recording device on them. This is NOT paranoia it HAPPENS.

Phone calls can be taped, texts, and emails saved. Do nothing that they can use against you due to the divorce or in custody cases or anything.

Even I miss you, I love you, begging, crying, whatever they can save to read over and over again or listen too. Don't feed their GIANT EGOS.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact
#117: March 13, 2014, 10:41:37 AM
And don't forget STAY OFF FACEBOOK and don't post anything there or on any other media based place.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact
#118: April 10, 2014, 08:13:52 PM
Before or during the holidays- expect calls, e-mails, surprise visits, cards and gifts for you and your children, possibly sent along with other people. Especially on Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, and Christmas Day, if you really want to enjoy a nice, peaceful holiday with your loved ones, make sure you lock the door, take your phone off the hook, plug in the electric fence, pull up the drawbridge, and throw the crocodiles in the moat. A word to the wise.

This is one of the most amusing articles I've read about NC.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact
#119: April 11, 2014, 03:15:12 AM
Sorry forgot to post the website!!  ;D ;D

http://luke173ministries.org/629759
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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