[OceanLady]

Wildfire,  looks like he has learned about boundaries from someone.  A little too late wouldn't you say??  LOL  He was baiting you and I'm glad that you did not respond to it.  Good work.

[in it]

Exactly no more communicating with him let the lawyer do it.

There's the boundary you set IF you choose to respond at all. All of this can be evidence gathering for HIM if you respond. And work in your favor if he communicates with you.

Just stay away from him. That's the mindset you have to have. HE doesn't get to do anything he wants and you just put up with it.

 So stand firmly, set your resolve, this is about what YOU need to do for yourself. (((HUGS)))

[Blindsided13]

Excellent topic in it.
NC is what I need. I sent my last offer. I'm done. He created his life he made choices for us. He can deal with the consequences. He lost a good woman who stood by him. I honored my vows and will do so until the decree is signed. After that, I won't look back. One day the kids will be grown and hopefully brave enough to tell him how they feel.  Hopefully karma will set in, and there will be remorse. I've had enough.

[in it]

I've said before what you allow continues- enough is exactly the frame of mind you have to get to. No more drama no more games. No more bull$h!te. Live your truth.

[in it]

Found online: Again focus on you your self respect and self esteem this is not a punishment for them it's to give yourself love and time to heal. Many relationships have been going on for years and you may have been in a loving committed relationship. Or thought you were.



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No contact 2 to begin soon...