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OP: September 25, 2013, 02:48:28 AM
The Harvard Women’s Health Watch suggests six reasons to get enough sleep:

Learning and memory: Sleep helps the brain commit new information to memory through a process called memory consolidation. In studies, people who’d slept after learning a task did better on tests later.

Metabolism and weight: Chronic sleep deprivation may cause weight gain by affecting the way our bodies process and store carbohydrates, and by altering levels of hormones that affect our appetite.

Safety: Sleep debt contributes to a greater tendency to fall asleep during the daytime. These lapses may cause falls and mistakes such as medical errors, air traffic mishaps, and road accidents.

Mood: Sleep loss may result in irritability, impatience, inability to concentrate, and moodiness. Too little sleep can also leave you too tired to do the things you like to do.

Cardiovascular health: Serious sleep disorders have been linked to hypertension, increased stress hormone levels, and irregular heartbeat.

Disease: Sleep deprivation alters immune function, including the activity of the body’s killer cells. Keeping up with sleep may also help fight cancer.


I feel THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. Please feel free to contribute to this thread!
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Re: SLEEP
#1: September 25, 2013, 02:55:08 AM
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#2: September 25, 2013, 03:03:15 AM
Yes! Sleep is so vital!

For a few months after BD, I barely slept. Now that I have 'let go' of all the stresses my H's MLC was putting upon me, now that I can get on with my life without worrying about what he's doing, thinking, not doing....I sleep like a log.

I get up at 6:30 and go to bed at 11:30 ish. It takes me about 30 minutes to fall asleep.
6 hrs+ of solid sleep is plenty enough for me and I don't wake up in the night anymore.

I love my bed. Best relationship ever!! ;D
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#3: September 25, 2013, 03:12:44 AM
I should have added that it is also very important to unwind from the day stresses before going to bed and that all the contemplating we have to do about our lives and what's happening should not be done in bed. It just cannot be the last thing we do before going to sleep.
Sleep is personal and belongs to the individual.
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#4: September 25, 2013, 08:30:03 AM
In It:

Thank you for starting this thread and sharing this very helpful information. Unfortunately, I still struggle with getting enough sleep. It is not due to MLC stress, just working full-time and raising three children virtually on my own. There never seems to be enough hours in the day to get it all done. I need a clone. LOL.

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#5: September 25, 2013, 09:22:07 AM
Your WELCOME!

I know sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture and it does all kinds of REALLY strange things to your brain.

http://psychcentral.com/lib/12-ways-to-shut-off-your-brain-before-bedtime/0006577
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

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#6: September 25, 2013, 05:56:58 PM
Sleep is vital. And for a LBS even more. Sadly many times we don't manage to sleep enough.

Yes, sleep deprivation is used as a form or torture and it provokes all sorts of changes in brain and body.

The fact that several of our MLCers don't sleep much, and certainly, for many, far less than they used to, amazes me. I still don't get how they manage to eat, work, exist, with so little sleep and lead the crazy lives that they do.

Would not found it strange if some MLCers will have permanent damages (brain ones or others) caused by their excessive lack of sleep.
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Re: SLEEP
#7: September 25, 2013, 06:05:55 PM
Thank you Angae for bringing up the thread I thought about it earlier for our friends "across the pond"

People hallucinate from lack of sleep. Brains cannot function correctly.W e can even convince ourselves by using denial that something else has happened to people that we love. Rewrite history ourselves.

Sleep take a genuine interest in it. Educate yourself.   I'll try to find some more links.
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

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#8: September 25, 2013, 06:07:49 PM
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There are two ways of spreading light:
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: SLEEP
#9: September 25, 2013, 06:28:50 PM
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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