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#20: November 11, 2013, 11:39:35 AM
Yep- total dark..no white noise..cooler than hotter temperature in the room.

Very important to have a good mattress and blankets pillows etc that give support and comfort to you and your senses.

I might have a drink...not very often.
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Re: SLEEP
#21: November 11, 2013, 05:25:36 PM
For a couple of months post BD I was lucky to get 5 hours a night.  I would wake 4 or 5 times each night.  Then I would wake up in the morning with an anxiety panic.  A total mess.  I wondered how I could possibly maintain my health.

Now, after 5 months, I am sleeping between 7 and 8 hours a night and waking up twice.  I am able to get right back to sleep with no problems. My W was always envious of me as I fell asleep quite fast.  She would wake up at 3 in the morning and could not get back to sleep (can anyone say depression?).

So I am making pretty good progress with my sleeping.  It's all due to God and giving my stress, anxiety and fear over to him.
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Re: SLEEP
#22: November 12, 2013, 03:27:24 PM
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Re: SLEEP
#23: November 12, 2013, 05:05:08 PM
Thanks, in it.  And thanks for all the great subject threads.  They really help me a lot.
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Re: SLEEP
#24: November 13, 2013, 03:12:26 AM
I'm glad it helps TZ-

I don't think people don't realize just how important this is..to have a good nights sleep.

 It isn't easy..the more you deal with this and the people with kids, jobs etc..the stress takes it's toll and you have to get your sleep. You think all kinds of crazy things if you don't get enough of it.

I'm a firm beliver in naps but I'm currently unemployed right now..I get pretty crabby if I don't get a nap! ;D ;D ;D
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

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Re: SLEEP
#25: November 14, 2013, 04:51:42 PM
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

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You want a partner not a project.
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Re: SLEEP
#26: November 16, 2013, 07:08:43 PM
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
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Re: SLEEP
#27: November 17, 2013, 05:09:25 PM
WOW am I going to have trouble doing THIS tonight!!
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
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Re: SLEEP
#28: November 19, 2013, 11:20:56 AM
Ahh Sleep, one of my favourite subjects and activities. I've always had insomniac tendencies and now my health problems (CFS/ME) cause me to be exhausted but unable to sleep properly.

I can totally agree about alcohol not being good for sleep, it'll send you off nicely but even if you don't need to get up for multiple toilet trips your sleep will be disturbed and you may wake a lot. There is good scientific evidence for this, but I can't remember the details.

If you go without sleep long enough it will actually kill you. However this takes the best part of two weeks with no sleep at all. You'll be going pretty crazy by that time. As someone else mentioned hallucinations among other things. Without sleep the body loses it's ability to control important things like temperature and blood pressure. The good news is that if you miss say 2 days (16 hours) of sleep you don't need the full 16 hours to catch up. Same applies no matter how long you stay awake.

Personally I need medication to sleep and have done ever since I've been ill. I take an antidepressant at a dose too low for it to be an antidepressant, but it has a side effect of making you sleepy - very useful. This kind of thing is recommended for my health problems. But tbh I'd recommend it to anyone who has trouble sleeping and wants to try medication. It's a much better option than proper sleeping pills as it's not addictive. Tho I know those of you in the US have better access to effective non addictive sleeping pills than we do in the UK.
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Re: SLEEP
#29: November 19, 2013, 03:26:17 PM
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There are two ways of spreading light:
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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