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#10: October 02, 2013, 02:32:39 PM
I have just found this thread. Thank you for the book on NVC, I had heard of it and it's very interesting. I will try to apply that concept....
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Re: How to stop engaging in their drama! what does it mean? what works for you?
#11: November 21, 2013, 08:53:25 PM
Quote from: in it on September 26, 2013, 03:07:41 AM
EXCELLENT ARTICLE AND POST!! SET up your own NO DRAMA zone!

I'm practicing on this  ;D
It starts to give me more peace when not dealing with H emotions. I know though sometimes it gets worse but i try to understand myself better and work on my issues and leave H dealing with his alone...
I'm still at the beginning of this practice, hopefully it will bring me to where I'm meant to be

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#12: November 24, 2013, 07:55:39 PM
I don't believe everything happens for a reason but I do believe there is a way to live your life where Nothing is Wasted.  You can take something valuable away from this and every experience.  Glad your night out was fun play time-- God knows you are overdue.

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Re: How to stop engaging in their drama! what does it mean? what works for you?
#13: November 25, 2013, 03:37:56 PM
Great article Thanks for sharing
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Re: How to stop engaging in their drama! what does it mean? what works for you?
#14: December 10, 2013, 09:13:39 PM
I love this!
Everyday at yoga I struggle with my own 'inner drama', trying to stop telling myself how terrible everything is in my life now that this horrible crisis has occurred. I wrestle with it. I wrestle with the urge to wipe the sweat away, or step out of the posture, or twitch or itch or whatever.
And the instructor always gently reminds us all to just be a witness to the sensations and try not to get caught up in the drama...just let it go by. Focus on your breath.

Breathe! That seems like all the drama I can take!
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