[Strongwoman]

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=4406.0

Need more advice on my situation please

[Braincell77]

Hi

Might not be classed at emergency but I have had some bad days probably due to christmas emotions.

Wondering if anyone could check my last posts and give their opinion. I think I am crazy making as RCR would say.

My thread is titled wish I was not here.

Many thanks

[Searching4Answers]

Does anyone know how long RCR is going to be on maternity leave? I would really love to have her coaching but I am not able to do Skype at the times she has for office hours. The written coaching is what would work best since H is still at home.

Thanks

[OldPilot]

Does anyone know how long RCR is going to be on maternity leave? I would really love to have her coaching but I am not able to do Skype at the times she has for office hours. The written coaching is what would work best since H is still at home.

Thanks

Well when you have 3 young kids how long does it take until you have free time?
I would say about that long.

They are her priority just as it should be.

[Disneyme]

This question is for anyone who is reconciling or has already. Does there ever come a time that the mLC'er will come clean and spill the truth? If the lbs'er wants to know things about the Ow like how they met, what life was like with them during the time they were "happy", or even things that they disliked about ow will they ever be able to talk about it? I am a person that likes to know everything. I am more afraid of the unknown than afraid of being hurt by the truth. I still feel like he is my husband and I should know everything about him. It kills me that he lives a life with someone else. I have a hard time wanting to reconcile when I feel like I couldn't do it with all that he has done. I feel it's impossible.

[Braincell77]

My thread is wish i was not here

i have posted a couple of questions on my thread regarding recent developments.

Basically she must be gossiping with D15 about if I have a GF as I am being questioned extensively by D15 and I know by the reasoning that it is her mums words and she also has passed a message through my D15 to my dad saying she would like him to talk to him and she misses him. WTF. Did not put the message through me though.

[trusting]

This question is for anyone who is reconciling or has already. Does there ever come a time that the mLC'er will come clean and spill the truth? If the lbs'er wants to know things about the Ow like how they met, what life was like with them during the time they were "happy", or even things that they disliked about ow will they ever be able to talk about it? I am a person that likes to know everything. I am more afraid of the unknown than afraid of being hurt by the truth. I still feel like he is my husband and I should know everything about him. It kills me that he lives a life with someone else. I have a hard time wanting to reconcile when I feel like I couldn't do it with all that he has done. I feel it's impossible.

I am not reconciling but I do think how much an MLCer comes clean may be an individual choice.  For me, the first couple of years of the crisis, there were so many things I was planning on asking my husband about if he ever came back.  Now, I realize the details really don't matter.  In fact, there are many things I am probably better off not knowing.  What is it going to change?  Yes, there are things that need to be brought up and out in the open, but I am not sure every little detail is needed.

That being said, I think in order to rebuild trust, there needs to be transparency.  While I don't think I need to know every detail, I do want my husband to be willing to be honest and open if I do have questions. 

Even if they return, it may take them awhile to be able to get to that point.

[Anjae]

Like Trusting said, it will depend of the MLCer. And of the LBS. And how long it will take them to return. What we may had wanted to know early on we may no longer want to know.

Agree, trust requires transparency but, again, the LBS may not want to know/ask for certain details.

I still think the fact Mr J lives with someone else will not allow for us to reconcile. Why? I don't want to live my life with a man that spend more than 5 years with another woman while still married to me. Were we divorced things may be different.

But for me that is an individual/personal issue. The LBS will be the one to decide what they want/need, not the MLCer.

[holdinon2hope]

Could really use some help as S17 n H are back home...don't know for how long or what's gonna happen..so how do I act n what happens now??  What do I do??  Please help

[i can and will cope]

Dont know if i doing right thing i need to start a new thread and gove my self a new name , how do i change my name and will people find hdic (under new name )

had such a bad morning after doing so well h informed me things are ecalating quicker than he imagined there,  he and ow got house lined up nearby (dont know why i feel so crap about it knew it was coming but feel i been BD yet again, i reacted and shouldnt have but they have knack of drawing you in , i afraid i was a bit rude and told him good luck they will need it.

he replied "shame that that was your response i did expect something different :-(, sorry , i suppose you are entitled to call me what you believe"  ,
 i then proceeded to say what did you want me to do give you and the woman who is also a marraige wrecker my blessing??  and told him not to contact me anymore

i so mad at myslef but then you start thinking what did he expect my reposnse to be  ?

he also told me that if he had nt ruined and tarnished everything we had he has no doubt that we would be together for the rest of our lives, ??

WTF here we go again and i LET myslef be made a fool of yet again, i feel so crap now 

please help need advice from my friends on here x