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#100: March 01, 2014, 07:16:13 AM
I moved your topic to "Ask a Mentor" and responded on your thread.

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http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=4611.msg297210#msg297210
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Re: Ask a Mentor 7
#101: March 10, 2014, 10:34:21 AM
Hi Mentors,
My H wants to come home.
His depression has sucked the joy out of any fun with OW.
He is not earning much money, and is misrable.
No remorse, just very worried, stressed out and tired.
I have said I do not consider this a reconciliation, and need some time to think about this.

I am moving to a beautiful town about an hour away, and he wants to come with me.
He wants to "get away from here".
Trying to relocate to escape himself?
I think OW has given him an ultimatum to start earning or go....
He mentioned , if I don't have a roof over my head, then nor does he.
I don't trust him, but I could use this as an opportunity to let the mlc play out while he remains "at home".
I think I read there was more chance of reconcilliation if the mlc remained at home.... I may be wrong.

So I need a bit of help establishing a few ground rules.
Any advice would be helpful.

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Re: Ask a Mentor 7
#102: March 15, 2014, 04:53:17 PM
can you guys please head to my thread.  i just posted about a conversation with h today.  i'm really floored now.  i need help.
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Re: Ask a Mentor 7
#103: March 17, 2014, 09:56:11 AM
please can you link my threads and some replies would be welcome I know i dont post much but i do try :-(

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=4741.0
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Re: Ask a Mentor 7
#104: March 17, 2014, 06:20:16 PM
I have connected all your previous threads. I know Anjae connected one of them, but I moved all of them over.
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Re: Ask a Mentor 7
#105: March 20, 2014, 10:16:05 AM
Just had BD #?  I've lost track of the number.  I haven't posted in a while and could use some insight on my thread.  Thanks!

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=4352.0

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Re: Ask a Mentor 7
#106: March 21, 2014, 12:13:15 AM
Am new here, got some issues that I could really use some advice on. Is this the correct way to link here ?

Cannot find a link to the post directly.

Many thanks,

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=4758.msg302316#msg302316

(Changed the link to the message with your question in it and answered on your thread).
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Re: Ask a Mentor 7
#107: March 22, 2014, 04:34:38 PM
Just reread postings about cake eating and reconnection on Panda's link and now I think I may have rolled up the welcome mat. Wondering if I should extend an olive branch.
Thanks for any insight.

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=4352.70
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Re: Ask a Mentor 7
#108: March 24, 2014, 11:02:43 AM
I know you were starting a "new" list for mentors when I started on the forum. I hadn't heard anything yet, so I'm just checking to be sure I hadn't fallen through the cracks.

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Re: Ask a Mentor 7
#109: March 25, 2014, 04:03:06 AM
Ukusa, I checked and you are on the list. The amount of newbies compared to the amount of mentors is huge. We will get you in.
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