[LisaLives]

DGU, I know, right? 

When H told me he was getting married, I just laughed and said "why because divorce is so much fun you can't wait to do it again?"  Then I told him he was a fool.  It may not sound detached, but it really was.  I felt as detached as if I was talking to "just a friend."  A few months before I could not have laughed, but in that moment it really was one of the funniest things I had ever heard--getting married, why--they already had sex when they were married to other people, they already have kids with other people, what kind of legitimacy does marriage give them at this point?  All I keep telling people is that "he has to do what he has to do and I hope he finds the happiness he seeks."  I had an amazing discussion with an amazing man today whose teenage son committed suicide two years ago.  Strong people learn to put everything in perspective--do it, it works and it helps.  Love to you all, I have lots to give today! 

[LettingGo]

WOW!! When I called your husband's attorney a woman/man hater, lesbian did not come to mind at all..... Some women feel that NO ONE will RESPECT them unless they unleash holy hell right from the get go. They show NO finesse.... just ham handed nastiness.... like a caricature of what a businesswoman is like..... Right now there seems to be a plethora of "Tough Chick Professional Woman CEO or Detective or Medical Examiner or Serial Killer Catcher or Military Woman" type shows on tv.... it's a fantasy.

Reminds me of that movie G.I. Jane where the two big scenes are when Demi Moore shaves her head to show she's one of the boys and then the one where she's being goaded and she tells some guy to "suck my big d***!!)  I really never got the appeal of that particular fantasy, but, to each his own.

[Buggy31]

This came up on another thread so I'm recreating it.  Writing Mama posted awhile ago but WOW it's insightful....just more validation to STEP FAR AWAY from OW and MLCer.  It ain't even close to smelling like roses.

http://gettinbetter.com/waif.html

OH not sure how this applies to OM

[Shantilly Lace]

HOLY CR4P

That describes ow to a"t"

[Stander1964]

So many similarities to both h and OW!  It may be interesting when it all falls apart.  I need to have my popcorn ready!

[Synicca]

HOLY Mother of Jesus!!

EVERY single word is H's OW..That is freaky and scary all at the same time..I am shocked!

[Thundarr]

Too tired to read and make sense of this tonight.  I want to read it and get my head wrapped around it better.

[CrazyStuff]

Buggy, many thanks for starting this thread.   I read the article; however, just wanted to say that there are other very good articles on the site.   I have just read the one about Addiction and will probably read others later.    As OP says 'knowledge is power.   

So again, thank you.   

CrazyStuff

[kikki]

Thanks so much for this info Buggy, and CS, I read through some of the other articles too.  She's pretty switched on and intuitive this woman.

There's a lot of really great information there....... I do feel sick though.  These OW are pretty damn scary!
I've been piecing together a few things H has said about OW, and she sure fits the bill.  Good luck to him is all I can say.....

[Writingmom]

Bugs!!!!  Just popping back in to catch up on the story of someone from a PM.  This is great info!  Forgot all about it.  Thanks for the re-post from one BPDOW survivor to another!