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#20: November 07, 2013, 01:25:47 PM
I will get H and MIL and Son-IL and his Wife small gift cards. Just to let them know I'm thinking of them. I will take the high road.

Last year H was stupid enough to buy a necklace for ow while S10 was with him. S10 told me that Dad had bought a necklace (don't tell my son what you are buying someone for Christmas, he can't keep a secret!  ;D) and I confronted him as I knew it wasn't for me. I told him I hoped she liked it as he always did have good taste in jewelry........

He came in about a week later and Monstered that he took the necklace back so now NO ONE would be getting it. I think ow had broken up with H and he was trying to win her back and she said no....hehehehe!

Wow, was that only last year? Feels like a lot longer ago than that!
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#21: November 07, 2013, 02:11:39 PM
In my current situation, with H draining the bank acct and leaving just a smidge at the bottom of the barrel, and threatening to cease paying  house bills, cutting off my credit lines, etc. I'm in no position to shop anyway.  So, problem solved, as far as spending $ on any gift for him.
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#22: November 07, 2013, 02:51:41 PM
You gonna get a recipe from a crazy old aunt WW?  ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#23: November 07, 2013, 02:56:13 PM
Quote from: in it on November 07, 2013, 02:51:41 PM
You gonna get a recipe from a crazy old aunt WW?  ;D ;D ;D ;D
No. I was going to just ask YOU for one!

He'll say..."tastes funny - What's InIt?"  :o
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#24: November 07, 2013, 03:00:17 PM
 ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
Yep-syrup of ipecac..goes in anything..a whole bottle should do it!
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#25: November 07, 2013, 07:19:01 PM
For sure I think it depends upon whether they are in your life or not, and how you feel.  has to be genuine and no expectation to receive anything back.  Blows my mind to see when people give, waiting to receive.  Not true gift giving.
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#26: November 07, 2013, 07:23:14 PM
OK I think little bee was serious when she started this thread..us war horses should show some respect .  Myself included.

 Sorry little bee- I knew this would happen when I read the title..ummmmm..a little revenge venting going on here.
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

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#27: November 08, 2013, 01:24:07 AM
Haha - yes I was serious, but I don't mind some light entertainment :) Life's too short to take everything seriously. I think I started the thread mostly out of curiosity about how people deal with the present situation.
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#28: November 08, 2013, 02:15:58 AM
OK at BD three years ago I toyed with the idea of sending the used kitty litter wrapped up with a bow and sending it in the mail to both of them. Exow was in the house then.

This year is zero for him.

Might be for all of them if they don't get thier $h!te together soon!
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#29: November 08, 2013, 03:11:52 PM
I will probably give the wife a coffee card for her favorite place and some bath salts/candles stuff like that. Just a token. If I don't I'm a hater and if I do she doesn't want it. I prefer to just to the kind thing as a very small token of what my heart feels.

For me, I expect nothing. Doubly hard. My birthday is Christmas Eve. Christmas used to be the BIG thing for the wife...The tree would be going up any day now. lol
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