[trusting]

I will admit that this makes me skeptical about whether or not it is really MLC. 

Also the husband's mlc seems to have only lasted a year?

MLC is not a short term thing.

[Tsunami]

IMHO, I don't think his MLC is over. 

I think he panicked, because she moved on so quickly and found someone she enjoyed spending time with. 

It did make me question if his actions threw her into a MLC of her own.

[WeepingWillow]

I recorded the show earlier today - just finished watching it.
One of the few happy ending stories about a man who has his 'come to Jesus' moment and wants his wife back in a huge way.

He did the very classic BD, had a girlfriend, followed by 'wish you'd find someone for yourself, I'm done with this marriage' , etc.  The wife was convinced he was mentally ill, it was so out of character.
After 10 month period, the catalyst for the husband coming to his senses seemed to be witnessing his wife moving on with her life, dating and getting over him. 

Meanwhile, she has fallen for another, and she's nuts about the guy; she doesn't trust her husband with her heart or their marriage vows, but she still loves him, and did let him move back in the house (separate bedrooms).  Still goes out with her boyfriend on the weekends.
The program ended w/ the couple's commitment to counseling arranged by Dr Phil, with wife suspending her new relationship for the duration.

I smell a sequel here.

I couldn't help myself, trying to pick up on cues to figure out which one of our posters she was!!!  HA! She wasn't British, that much I know

[rover77]

Dr Phil is a start...if  only the MSM would out this... DSM notwithstanding...so much of this misery is just tragic and unneccessary

[Anjae]

An MLCer whose crisis lasted 10 months, then wife found someone else and, all of a sudden the guys crisis is over? Never heard about such thing.

The guy may just have had a midlife affair, a very different thing from a MLC. Calling what that guy had is like calling pneumonia or tuberculosis to the common cold.

Unless, of course, the guy crisis is not done. But I suspect what most mainstream (and not so mainstream) media call MLC has nothing to do with what we deal with.

What was the last LBS spouse here whose spouse crisis was done in 10 months?...

[WeepingWillow]

Dr Phil is a start...if  only the MSM would out this... DSM notwithstanding...so much of this misery is just tragic and unneccessary

So true!
by the way, what does DSM mean?

An MLCer whose crisis lasted 10 months, then wife found someone else and, all of a sudden the guys crisis is over? Never heard about such thing.
What was the last LBS spouse here whose spouse crisis was done in 10 months?...

yes, that's what I was thinking, too.  I found myself getting my hopes up, but doesn't jive with the anecdotal time frames, does it? 
I wonder if this was a midlife transition, but on the cusp of crisis?

[trusting]

An MLCer whose crisis lasted 10 months, then wife found someone else and, all of a sudden the guys crisis is over? Never heard about such thing.

I haven't watched the episode myself (I tend to stay away from mainstream "MLC" information) but I am with Anjae on this.  MLCers don't get pulled out of their crisis by outside influences.

[Anjae]

yes, that's what I was thinking, too.  I found myself getting my hopes up, but doesn't jive with the anecdotal time frames, does it? 
I wonder if this was a midlife transition, but on the cusp of crisis?

No it does not. Maybe just a normal midlife transition. Many midlife transitions include an affair. Some don't, of course. Even some MLC don't include an affair (rare but it happens).

Think you're right, trusting, to our knowledge MLCers don't end their crisis because of external influences. Even if, yes, some of them may sense they will loose the LBS and may start to pull themselves together. Still, it tends to take them far more than 10 months to realise such a simple thing.

[trusting]

Still, it tends to take them far more than 10 months to realise such a simple thing.

Yes, exactly.  I do think it is possible at the end of their crisis when they are starting to wake up that they may get a jolt if they realize that they are losing their spouse, but deep in it I don't think it would make any difference. 

[rover77]

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), published by the American Psychiatric Association...it doesn't acknowledge MLC but if you get social workers or psychologists,attorneys or judges together in small groups..they know it's real