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#10: March 27, 2014, 09:38:39 AM
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Re: Crying- the health benefits
#11: March 27, 2014, 11:03:01 AM
Well....I hadn't cried in a while....but I sure did past couple days! Not for me....For her. The stuff I just posted about shows me just the kind of bad place and turmoil she is in. I can't believe just how confused and twisted it gets. Can't imagine being like that; being someone who was so together with it and such standards all her life.

The shear stress, health issues and apparent aging that is taking its toll is almost unbearable to watch.

Afraid she is about to have a break down!


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Re: Crying- the health benefits
#12: March 27, 2014, 01:19:49 PM
I understand your compassion and it is admirable..they truly are lost to themselves  for whatever reason.

 You must cry for your own loss and continue to grieve.

Little bits to be examined and try to understand there is life after this.

But cry..it helps..... and sleep you will get stronger and able to face what may have to be faced....
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Crying- the health benefits
#13: March 27, 2014, 01:22:59 PM
Crying is the most inexpensive, natural and powerful mechanism for coping with pain, stress and sorrow. By stifling crying, legitimate emotions are not released and unproductive personality traits like rudeness, and potentially harmful acts such as school shootings can result. We should encourage healthy crying. After all, weeping is probably a necessary contributing factor to human survival.

From this website refers to men and women

http://archives.smdailyjournal.com/article_preview.php?id=53397
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Crying- the health benefits
#14: March 27, 2014, 01:44:19 PM
I am pretty new to my W's mlc, just a few weeks old. this past Saturday was pretty hard for me. I had a break down and I just cried while walking out of the movies imagining I am with an old her holding my arms. We used to go to the movies a lot and she would hold my arms when its cold.
So I cried and cried and this resulted of me scratching my eyes that then resulted to an Eyelid Cyst. I still have it right now and it hurts and its bulging my eyes.
It just reminds me to not cry too much now! lol
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#15: March 27, 2014, 01:47:33 PM
OUCH! Did you see a Dr due to it??

 tm2183 Besides this cyst- how did you feel after you cried? Better, worse?
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There are two ways of spreading light:
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Crying- the health benefits
#16: March 27, 2014, 01:51:42 PM
http://www.jeffreyplatts.com/2013/08/mencry/

5 reasons why men should cry more
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Crying- the health benefits
#17: March 27, 2014, 02:23:17 PM
Quote from: in it on March 27, 2014, 01:47:33 PM
OUCH! Did you see a Dr due to it??

 tm2183 Besides this cyst- how did you feel after you cried? Better, worse?

I feel i got better and a sigh of relief. I actually felt it made me a wee bit stronger each time I grieve and cry.
Nah, I didnt see a Dr. My eyes are getting a bit better now.  :)
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#18: March 27, 2014, 02:29:34 PM
GOOD that's what it should do make you stronger!!!  :)

CRY-SLEEP- EAT- BREATHE!!
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Crying- the health benefits
#19: July 19, 2014, 07:10:10 PM
Thanks for re-posting this. I had no idea. but My H has been telling me he's been fighting it off. and I thought to myself....

Geeze, I don't wanna wind up like him! lol

I think I'm done crying for today. I honestly feel SO much better.
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