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MLC Monster Re: When do they come home?
#10: February 23, 2014, 04:53:07 PM
Quote from: UKStander on February 22, 2014, 09:48:04 AM
Quote from: LettingGo on February 20, 2014, 12:52:42 PM
I sincerely believe that many of the tactics I tried prolonged the time between when he WOULD have come home and when he DID come home.


Hi LG!

Can you tell us what these tactics were that only prolonged things?

Thanks to you,

UKS

I also am very interested in what tactics prolonged the return.
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Re: When do they come home?
#11: February 23, 2014, 05:24:57 PM
I guess the tactics that may prolong a MLC may differ from MLCer to MLCer. MLC is very similar but not all MLCers are alike.

Some take far more than others to return. I believe most MLCers want to return home. What many times happens is that when they are ready to do it the LBS has moved on.
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Re: When do they come home?
#12: February 24, 2014, 08:13:00 PM
Quote from: Anjae on February 23, 2014, 05:24:57 PM
I guess the tactics that may prolong a MLC may differ from MLCer to MLCer. MLC is very similar but not all MLCers are alike.

Some take far more than others to return. I believe most MLCers want to return home. What many times happens is that when they are ready to do it the LBS has moved on.
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Yes, mine has been gone two and a half years and shows no signs of remourse or wanting to come home..spends a tad bit more time with his daughter, for which even though it is often with the alienator, I am still thankful, because a year ago he spent almost no time with her...

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Re: When do they come home?
#13: February 25, 2014, 06:15:52 PM
Two and a half years is a long time but not that much time in MLC world.
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Re: When do they come home?
#14: February 25, 2014, 08:07:29 PM
3 years this March, and she  has never look back, our divorce was final in Sept after the required waiting period of 30 days after the signing.  I have nothing to do with her,  I am NC with her, and it is good for me.
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Re: When do they come home?
#15: February 26, 2014, 01:16:33 PM
Starrett:

To true my Brother "she has never looked back", 3+ years divorced, MLC coming up on 7 years, No regrets, no remorse (none to my face anyways) no apologies, only attempts at cake eating.

I think a female MLC'r that seeks a reconciliation is even rarer than a male LBS who will take her back.

Mac

P.S. Let the pummeling begin
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Re: When do they come home?
#16: February 26, 2014, 04:22:04 PM
BD was late Oct.  She came back on Jan. 27th  Has a rental house in place and leaving next week.  She did cake eat between these months.  She just came home 2 early.  I had a hard time emotionally with her back in the house,  but I do hope there are more attempts. 
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