[patience.of.a.saint]

Magic jeans... I think I may need some of those...where does one go to find them?

American Eagle works for me but I have white girl shovel butt.  It's really all in wearing heels, it pushes everything up and out...

I have wrote this many times on this forum before (and not everybody is in agreement) but I believe if you work on the outside the inside will follow.  I never walk out the door, even if I'm just going to pick up something quick unless I'm dressed like I'm going to accidentally bump into him and the girl.

At first people often said, "why are you so dressed up?"  Now I often get comments (this one was yesterday), "you always look so put together"...

Well, at least I am on the outside. 

Thanks! I just discovered AE for my beanpole S14. I'll have to order me a pair as well. I used to get Levis, but they changed the pockets on them so now they look like mom jeans and mom jeans are definitely NOT magic jeans.

I have to agree that a little something new on the outside can help the inside too. I am such a jeans & tshirt girl though. At least I can rock the jeans if I find the right fit.

[blackice]

i have a hard time finding pants. i have one of those big butts that have a hard time finding good pants. i used to be a ballerina so i have a big ol dancer booty. so i wear leggings and nice dresses. the leggings are pretty magical if i say so myself lol

[Medusa]

It's very true about going out looking good. I've always done that but ramped it up once I picked myself off the floor. I have to say, I really love knowing that I get checked out even in the grocery store.

I used to me a fairly low-maintainence kinda gal. No more. I get my nails done regularly and am so fixated on electrolysis, I'm pretty sure I will be putting my technician'a kids through college!

On jeans, I have become a convert to Old Navy Rockstar. My D works there and introduced me to them. I swear they're the best fitting, most comfortable jeans I've had in years!

[toomanytearss]

I have a difficult time finding pants for me at 5 ft 10 and a size 4 it's hard to find a long inseam in that small a size.  But I do have a couple of pair I found by chance that do the trick.  When I'm wearing them I stop at any convenience store where there are construction trucks filling up.   
Puts a smile on my face for the rest of the day. 

[bipolared]

It's very true about going out looking good. I've always done that but ramped it up once I picked myself off the floor. I have to say, I really love knowing that I get checked out even in the grocery store.

I used to me a fairly low-maintainence kinda gal. No more. I get my nails done regularly and am so fixated on electrolysis, I'm pretty sure I will be putting my technician'a kids through college!

On jeans, I have become a convert to Old Navy Rockstar. My D works there and introduced me to them. I swear they're the best fitting, most comfortable jeans I've had in years!

I was low maintenance too, but now I will accessorize to shovel out a horse stall.  And ladies, I think getting brows and lashes tinted takes off 5 years.
I mentioned magic jeans but I actually need to find some as I am currently wearing D18's now too large, handmedown jeans due to the LBS budget.  Until then miniskirts and leggings seem to work nicely!  But yeah, it used to seem superficial but looking good really is feeling good.

[patience.of.a.saint]

I would look ridiculous in leggings. I think the look is so cute on everyone else, but I just don't see it happening on me anytime soon. I think my legs are too short to pull it off. But hand me some jeans with the pockets in the right spot and a thong to make it look good...ya, that I can do! 

My senior year high school yearbook features a picture of my butt as I was directing the band as a drum major...I was told 20 years later that my butt still looks as good as that picture. Apparently, that pic was a memorable one for several of the guys. Who knew? 

[terrified_in_TN]

Not wanting this thread to die, as I have some genuine interest here...

I mentioned this in my thread, but how about this:

W was one of THE most dedicated employees at her job.  She was the "goto" gal for ANYTHING.  Although it pissed me off that she did so many of the jobs there, yet did not get the compensation she deserved.  She was IMO taken advantage of quite a bit.  Not purposely, but if you need a job done who are you going to ask, a lazy person, or someone you know that you can count on?

Anyway, she reached a point where she no longer cared.  She even told me quite some time ago (way before replay) that she didn't care if she got fired.

Now past 3 months since she has been with OM and no job.  She worked for about a week at one place then quit.  Family says she really isn't looking at all.  Seems she has no desire to work.  I am NOT calling her lazy; quite the contrary for most of our whole relationship, but I think she is burnt out.  Doesn't care.  Just wants to spend time with OM and not work.

Also, when she left, her CC balance was 0 (actually she had a credit balance).  I have been keeping tabs on her spending...She is now 1.4K in CC debt.

-T

[toomanytearss]

Depression.  That's not excuse for her choices, so please don't think I believe that.  I hold my h responsible for all his stupid choices, depression or not.  It's why they can't handle stress. 

[Rosebud]

I have suffered from depression.  It's hard to imagine what goes on in the mind of a person who is depressed; it is a private hell.  Each person experiences depression differently. I would describe it as being a short circuit in the brain which distorts normal thought processes and the worst thing about it is the depressed mind feels like reality no matter how much you tell yourself that what you are thinking or doing is not logical.  One of the issues with depression is that it can creep up on you gradually so that one day you realise something is not right but you don't have a name for it.  It is so awful that I understand why someone who has has not been diagnosed will turn to all sorts of things to get some respite.  I was lucky in that my doctor recognised the symptoms and I got professional help.  One of the best bits of advice I was given during this time was to not do anything life changing that I might later regret - at BD I repeated this to H but he insisted he knew what depression was and he wasn't depressed.... It is a tragedy that so many of our MLCers are either ignorant of the symptoms of depression or refuse for whatever reason to acknowledge there may be a problem.

[Medusa]

I've also suffered depression. I was I'm the throws of it when he started with OW (one of his many excuses). I'd been laid off from my job and had to reapply. That really messes with your head. But I didn't go out, start an affair, spend etc. I did my best to get through every day.

It is a tragedy they aren't able to get the help they need, but the more I learn and think about MLC, I'm starting to believe they simply cannot do it until they've exhausted every single thing they can think of to try to make themselves happy. Mine was in counseling for awhile bit quit. He just wasn't ready. No idea if he ever will be.