[Yoyolove]

Rosebud,  I also heard the "I love you, but like family" only 6 wks after asking me to start making wedding plans. 
Really sad the position they put themselves into and can not see what they are truly doing.

[terrified_in_TN]

Hmmm, for some reason I was thinking I never heard anything out of the ordinary, but my memory isn't what it used to be.  Then I remembered a few.  How about some of these gems:

After BD, but before separation:  "if one day we are both remarried, we should have an affair with each other."
Again, after BD, before sep:  "If we divorce, we should remarry someday for a 'fresh start'."
Told to D15 the night before w left:  "I don't see myself marrying this guy [OM].  I just want to go have my fun."

oh yeah, after separation:  "I don't care if I end up poor and alone, at least I will be happy!"

-Terrified

[toomanytearss]

How about this one.  On one of the times my h wanted to come home but then changed his mind again he said the only way we could be together is if we'd never been together.

Still not sure what that means.

[Searching4Answers]

I used to keep a list of the off-the-wall batsh$t crazy stuff H said. I stopped doing it about 7-8 months ago. I think I got bored

This was one of my favorites:

When talking about needing to do this (MLC I guess) he told me "Even if I have to quit my job, pack all of my stuff in my backpack and hitch hike from job to job that is what I will do". I just stared at him

[Pixiegirl]

Instead of ILYBNILWY, I got "WE love each other but WE aren't in love." It was like he was someone else giving us advice. Then the rant came ; I want to be FREE, I want to find HAPPINESS, I want to LIVE!!!!! Yes, he left in search of all of these things. Now 6 months later he is depressed, isolated, drinks and smokes pot everyday. Woo HOO H, you are FREE, HAPPY, and LIVING!!!!!

[toomanytearss]

Yep that sure is living.  Mines smoking dope and drinking too.  He was so upset that amendment 2 didn't pass here.  What a nut case.

[Pixiegirl]

TMT,
And the rebellious teenager has to learn on his own. 

[Searching4Answers]

Does anyone else have a MLCer who is obsessive with food?

My H has been on this 'health' food kick - I guess it goes along with the exercising. I agree that eating healthy is a good thing but my H is so out of balance with it. He won't eat anything that he deems as junk. He only wants things that are organic, he eats mostly vegetables now, he stays away from carbohydrates. I had some eggnog last night and H says I sure do miss that - he has no concept of moderation. He can't have a small bite of something so he bans the food altogether. Is this just an issue of control? He says that he is disciplined but if that were the case wouldn't he be able to have a small amount instead of banning the food from his diet.

The thing about this is that he is always at one extreme or the other. He has no middle ground. When H was a teenager/young adult he would keep food (tacos, burritos, burgers) under the seat of his car for days and still eat them! I don't think that he ever got sick because he drank some much that the alcohol killed the bacteria. Then he went on to not eating red meat or pork - he only eats chicken, turkey, fish. His family would cook an additional items so that he would have something to eat - I did this sometimes too if I really wanted beef I would just throw some chicken on the grill too. Now he has narrowed down his food selections to hardly anything. He works out all of the time (he is back to his teenage weight ). It just isn't healthy.

[starting over]

I got I'm miserable here, I hate it here, my hearts in one place and my head is in another. I need to figure myself out, I still love you but I need to get myself right. 3 weeks later he swears he never said any of those things, and just wants a D. Apparently I imagined all that.

[patience.of.a.saint]

Mine isn't obsessive about food, but he thinks a testosterone pill would help his metabolism & make him get back some muscle and lose weight/fat. Ummm....perhaps get off the couch and DO something, as well as don't scoff at my healthy foods like plain fruit or veggies! Cut out the Mt Dew, Monster, and Angry Orchard as well. It's amazing what they think up!

He did eat lots of celery for a while...because it was supposed to help sex drive. I always giggled at that one because he never needed celery when he was here...