[superdog]

Something in that DA.

From peak male time onwards the testosterone is reducing so I believe, so maybe they do feel like there is a rush on. Also maybe experimenting with who they are??

Good news for us is that if women peak in the 40's and men in the 20's does that then mean that we can have 2x20+ year olds to make up for it. :-) ( as long as you don't want conversation with them of course)

I am sure that there are a lot of ow's out there doing some pretty uncomfortable things in order to keep the prize.

This is the one and only thing my h never made a derogatory comment about this whole 5 years. Boy he was a lucky guy back then hee hee.

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[holdinon2hope]

I think it has to do with all the stress of this whole mess that "it" don't work right so there trying to find something to help so to speak.  I know when H 1st left he was ok in that dept then after a lil while he hot to where "it" wouldn't perform so he would do more oral than anything. 

I think there just list in all aspects n trying their damndest to figure who they are out and its leaving a train wreck behind them.

[Medusa]

I agree, H2H. Mine suffers ED (or what I prefer to call limp d*** syndrome) but there is nothing physically wrong with him. His "softness" is all in his head. 

Mine became incredibly selfish sexually to the point that he insisted I was frigid. We did have some intimacy issues, but I certainly wasn't frigid. That's one of the reasons I decided cake eating was okay for awhile...he needed to experience the "new" (and much thinner) me in all her "glory" until it became too painful for me.

I know this man and I know he remembers what happened between us, especially one night when we were visiting D21 and staying in her apartment. I saw the love in his eyes, and it haunts me still. But it was so powerful that I don't see me how he can ever forget it.so I hold on to that little piece hoping that one day I will see it again. And if I don't, I know that at least for awhile he still loved and cherished me.

[holdinon2hope]

Yea, I know that loving look and it made my heart melt.  It seems so long ago now..maybe H will remember it too someday.  We can only hope and like you say hold that moment and believe there will be more to come.

[patience.of.a.saint]

LOL at the OW needing to keep the prize...have to totally agree there. More power to her if she enjoys all the weird stuff. I'm not too worried about all that. I know a few tricks he will miss eventually. Not that I want him to come back just for that, but he's a man...just sayin'. I guess that's what makes me allow the occasional cake eating. I want him to remember what he likes and where he can get more of that. Wouldn't want to fall a notch or two on the totem pole.

And I agree on that loving look. It's in there once in a while. I don't think I will see it for a while again, but I can just hope it pops out again before I forget the last one.

[bipolared]

I have gotten the loving look, too-even though he is not in love with me and never was.  He usually runs for a while after that look.
I think some cake-eating is good for the reasons you all said.  And hey, I really, really like cake.

[patience.of.a.saint]

I wish I could find the website back that I had read once. This lady had gotten her man back after several years of MLC and she allowed cake eating the whole time he was with the OW. Not for the faint of heart, but I DO like cake a lot.

[Slow Fade]

I wish I could find the website back that I had read once. This lady had gotten her man back after several years of MLC and she allowed cake eating the whole time he was with the OW. Not for the faint of heart, but I DO like cake a lot.

All well and fine if you can handle it. AND if you take precautions to avoid the rampant STD's out there. The rise in STD's among our respective age groups is alarming. And the ow they pick are probably not the safest in this regard either......its not worth your life.

[holdinon2hope]

You know..I like "cake" as much as the next woman. However I have shared my H way to many times over the years and in the begining after BD and have finally decided IF H wants to be MY H he will be mine n MINE ALONE.

I'm done sharing my H and as long as H is with Ow..well he gets none of the "marital goods" until H wants n acts like my H.  I have noticed I don't even think about sex much in any shapeor form anymore..iI guess I'm not having it so why think about it? 

It also hurt to much to watch him walk out after every "escapade" we had knowing he was going to Ow trying not yo get caught with me..the WIFE. To much pain for me. I give kutos who can do it though..I'm just not one. N yes..please please protect yourselves!!

[Slow Fade]

It also hurt to much to watch him walk out after every "escapade" we had knowing he was going to Ow trying not yo get caught with me..the WIFE

I agree. I always felt that perhaps I was the "tune up" for the ow. Yuk! If he wants marital benefits, he needs to come back and be my H.