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#100: May 20, 2015, 09:41:14 PM
How do u know if someone is out of replay if still  has ow?

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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#101: June 02, 2015, 12:24:56 PM
Hello,
My H is still living at home for a few more days but he already presented OW to my boys (13 & 17). I find this so disrespectful and I'm so hurt. How do I deal with that?

Thank you

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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#102: June 15, 2015, 01:43:17 PM
Hello
Can a mentor please unlock my thread?  I last posted on my own thread in January 2015 and it is called Confused in UK Part 3.  I can find my thread but am unable to post as it is locked.
Thanks Jos1.9
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1968 H and Me born
1992 Married
Ds born 2000 and 2006
May 2013 H left us
H continually stated that there is no OW
January 2014 H filed for Divorce
January 2014 H alludes & infers that there IS an OW
April 2014 H issues DECREE NISI
May 2014 H makes OW public
H continually states that OW R began December 2013
H asked for over a year to come home but asked in monster mode and I refused.
August 2016 H issues DECREE ABSOLUTE
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#103: June 15, 2015, 02:11:02 PM
Quote from: jos1.9 on June 15, 2015, 01:43:17 PM
Hello
Can a mentor please unlock my thread?  I last posted on my own thread in January 2015 and it is called Confused in UK Part 3.  I can find my thread but am unable to post as it is locked.
Thanks Jos1.9
Your last thread is 168 posts and has been retired.
Please start a new one.

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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#104: June 17, 2015, 03:26:05 PM
Thank you for clarifying that Old Pilot

Can I please ask you if it is possible for you to link my threads?  - although the old one is locked can you please link them for me ?

Thanks Jos1.9

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1968 H and Me born
1992 Married
Ds born 2000 and 2006
May 2013 H left us
H continually stated that there is no OW
January 2014 H filed for Divorce
January 2014 H alludes & infers that there IS an OW
April 2014 H issues DECREE NISI
May 2014 H makes OW public
H continually states that OW R began December 2013
H asked for over a year to come home but asked in monster mode and I refused.
August 2016 H issues DECREE ABSOLUTE
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#105: August 11, 2015, 09:31:39 AM
Why do MLCERS take OW on vacation to the same places they went with us? Right now my H is on vacation at a romantic B&B on a lake we went to.

Is this part of the MLCERS process? Is it a sign he is missing me?

I really don't understand this process or how they come through. I'm in 3 years. Is he still in replay? Will it end?


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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#106: August 26, 2015, 12:45:19 PM
I was wondering if anyone ever asked their spouse to come back without begging and pleading?  My h has said to me multiple times that I would like to see him come back and cuddle and stuff. I know sometimes they make statements with  half truths so I was wondering if that could be happening at all. With this staement and he is afraid. if so what happened? I know he is still in replay but was wondering this.
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#107: August 28, 2015, 07:50:33 AM
Kbutter,

Just remember actions speak louder than words.
If your H wanted to come home nothing would stop him.

They "say" a lot of stuff.
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"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#108: September 17, 2015, 10:23:31 AM
Can I request to have a mentor?  The mentor I had at BD as a newbie is not currently an active mentor.
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#109: September 17, 2015, 02:09:57 PM
Quote from: heroIam on September 17, 2015, 10:23:31 AM
Can I request to have a mentor?  The mentor I had at BD as a newbie is not currently an active mentor.
I will give your request to RCR
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