[willitgetbetter]

I was speaking offline with an LBS. They said there is material regarding why the MLCer will do things with the OP but not us. Anyone know where that is?

I had been trying to get H to go to church with me for years, like 12 years. He's gone only 18 months and he's going to church with OW, to her church.  He always refused not being interested and sometimes joking that the church would burn to the ground upon him walking in. But then he walks in with Immoral OW? Lol. This is kind of fascinating to me because if I were him or OW, having had an affair that affected a family, church is the very last place I would want to go. I would think it would make someone feel worse and more guilty. Any thoughts on this church thing? Lol.

(answered on your thread)

[Mutley]

hi,
so my original story is titled EMA disclosure with teenage kids

I have posted back last year , but I cant see how to carry on with that post so here i am.
With my emergency , please help me !
I discovered evidence of OW2 a week ago , last Aime I discovered I confronted H the next day it all went wrong he left then came back and here we are 14months later looks like hes been seeing her OW2 ( same as OW1) when working in other country.
So understandably i wanted to pause and take stock before i jumped into confrontation again. However, since he came back last year we were planning to move to this other country,and even now whilst seeing OW2 hes talking like we r emigrating!!!! 
the Pressures are he is leaving for 2 weeks "work " in other country on Monday 12Th ( its flexible work so could probably cancel).
 IT my birthday on Sunday 11Th. Whilst I know this is going to be really $h!te ( having been there) before.
I m a very time of year/date orientated person ,and really don't want my birthday to foreveer be linked with this $h!te! confrontation and probably him leaving again.
SO i have contemplated delaying until he gets back.
He knows somethings up with me cause he told OW2 that in a message.

Also I know everyone loves their hubby but hes being such an idiot teenage version of himself ,i kind of wanted to try a different way.
 Say something like ..... i can see hes hurting himself etc, what does he want to do about that etc etc . Also wondered about asking him how he felt about confrontation. and tell him I would have preferred him to come and tell me!

Am I deluded stuck in denial or crazy??
DO I postpone for a couple of weeks ??
I have searched and searched but I cant find any info on postponing . Basically I have the next 3 days to do it if I need to and then what .
I dont fancy giving him an ultimatum
ie
If you want this to work dont get on the plane on Monday type thing
If i confront and let him go , will it drive me crazy while hes away
or will it drive them together in the crisis???

I really dont want to talk to any friends about this yet as you can imagine i feel like an absolute idiot for taking him back last time ! the  thought of telling people hes done it again is aweful, and also most people will say thats it get shot of him he cant be trusted which is defo true right now, but maybe not in the long haul.
Also we have 4 kids I cant bare the thought of putting them though it again although they r grown up, it has taken alot of time get them all speaking to each other again.
also re my birthday ,the kids will know something is up if i challenge before sunday and he leaves Monday.

thanks for taking the time to read my ramblings. Please feel free to talk sense disagree etc etc ! 

[Ready2Transform]

Hi Mutley! I've revived your thread here and will respond there as well: http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=4959.0

[crazyjourney]

Just need some help

I posted on Treasures thread something that was meant for a pm, must be half asleep this morning, could someone please remove it or even just my name.

Thank you.

I removed it - send it as a PM- OldPilot

[crazyjourney]

Thank you so much.

x

[Seekingpatience]

Hi, 

Just a head's up.
I have been getting "server not responding" when trying to access RCR's blog lately. Just wanted to check some articles.

Your help is much appreciated.
Thanks
Peace and strength

[OldPilot]

Hi, 

Just a head's up.
I have been getting "server not responding" when trying to access RCR's blog lately. Just wanted to check some articles.

Your help is much appreciated.
Thanks
Peace and strength

Me too

I have noted it to RCR

[Made]

I am about to go on a vacation to a different country and want my will to be up to date. One of the things I want, if I die before my time, is that my kids get to read all of my journal so that they understand what has been happening in our lives for the last year and a half. Is there a way to download all of this in chronological order, so I can print it and include it in my will?

Answered on thread - OldPilot

[Roma]

What should you do if/when a h breaks a boundary? What is a good consequence to say?

ansewerd on your thread.

[FindingHopeII]

I am in need of some wise words because at the moment, all I can think about is "what kind of cowardly excuse of a man and father blow off his kid and manipulate/make-up reasons why?"

Is my Ex just a sociopath narcissistic @$$hole?  Or...is this what MLC actually looks like sometimes?  I want to scream right now. 

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=7371.0

answered on your thread.