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Has your MLC'er filed for divorce?

No, still living at home.
3 (7.5%)
No, but has threatened (living at home).
4 (10%)
No, but we are separated.
14 (35%)
Yes, paperwork is in process.
11 (27.5%)
We are divorced.
8 (20%)

Total Members Voted: 40

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MLC Monster Re: Divorce Poll
#80: July 26, 2011, 05:13:49 AM
Hey all! Glad this was bumped, I had forgotten about it!

Was re reading it and OP and RTFMF...what you said about actually being separated is true... spending the night, eating with, going places together...ANY type of contribution to the marital household can negate the start of the 2 year wait...in my case my H has continued to pay rent, and had NEVER changed his 'legal' address on his drivers license...not to mention mail still comes for him and several other bills are in his name as well...this is all in PA...

still , hope this helps!

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2 years since he left... divorce was filed a year ago, nothing going on right now. Seems like he and OW are done...will take some more time! Seems comfortable being around me and the girls. Relaxed without her, but does not want me...or anyone else...all that matters are his daughters...

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Re: Divorce Poll
#81: July 26, 2011, 05:38:37 AM
H has not moved out but is preparing to.  Is looking for a place to live and beginning the process of separating his stuff from mine.  Ugh!
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Re: Divorce Poll
#82: July 26, 2011, 05:59:17 AM
I reset the poll as so many changes have occurred in our situations.
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M 22 years
T  23 years
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Crisis began 4/08
Divorced 2/13
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Re: Divorce Poll
#83: July 26, 2011, 08:09:01 AM
Still lives at home  >:( wants a divorce but no action.
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Re: Divorce Poll
#84: July 26, 2011, 09:09:20 AM
Left Christmas 2010 to move in w/ OW b/c there was so much pain "everywhere". (read: caving to Emotional blackmail of OW)

7/2011 Says seeing attorney to file is "not in the plan".
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Re: Divorce Poll
#85: July 26, 2011, 09:20:17 AM
He has been gone 2 weeks short of a year.
Announced he was divorcing me on the day he left.
Hasn't done anything, filed anything - or brought it up since.
Little contact.....occasional texts and emails.

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M - 33 years (did the last 3 years count?)
D - 35, D -31, S - 31
BD 5/29/2010, Ran away from home - 8/15/2010,
Found out about affair - 2/11
H asks for divorce - 8/11
H filed for divorce 10/11
Announced "new" girlfriend 12/12 (3rd OW)
Divorce final 06/13 (I decided to finish it)
Dumped OW#3 9/15 (After 4 years)
Married OW#1 2019
OW#1 filed for divorce from ExH 9/24
ExH divorced - 5/25
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Re: Divorce Poll
#86: July 26, 2011, 09:25:37 AM
  No divorce talk.... No legal separation talk..lives at OWs.  5.5 months aproximately 5 months 2 weeks 3 days and 17 minutes LOL
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Re: Divorce Poll
#87: July 26, 2011, 09:29:58 AM
Divorce final 6 months after bomb drop.  Bomb drop 1.5 year ago.  Consistent contact about 2 or 3 times per month.
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Re: Divorce Poll
#88: July 26, 2011, 09:42:39 AM
Divorce final 1 year after BD in October '09. Soon will be two years since BD and one year divorced.  October isn't my favorite month!
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Re: Divorce Poll
#89: July 26, 2011, 11:58:34 AM
She is still at home. She has left the home on three occassions for long visits with her sister. She will leave again in August to visit family and will not return till late September. In many ways, she has left us a long time ago. In many ways, the divorce is a piece of paper because emotionally, physically, and really spiritually they have already left us and even if they sleep in our homes, they are truly gone.
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