[What What is the status of your wedding ring?]

What What is the status of your wedding ring?

Still wear your wedding ring

42 (35.3%)

If not is it on a necklace, other hand or something

6 (5%)

Have it safely tucked away

60 (50.4%)

Gave it back

7 (5.9%)

Never had one never needed one

4 (3.4%)

Total Members Voted: 118

[stillhopeful]

My h took his off before BD.he was always taking it off to workout and I guess just decided to leave it off. I still wear mine. We are still married plus my seven year old son would definitely notice if it was gone.

[With Gods Help!]

I used to wear mine..and then to wind h up i wouldn't wear it.........my h is multiple returner and i told him when he starts acting and treating me life his wife and gets rid of o/w then i will wear it again and not until.........him coming and going even made my wedding ring DIZZY lol xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[missybuddha]

I took mine off two weeks ago (bd 1 was feb ) They are safe. If I feel like it I will put them on, it sort of helps with detachment for me. Wearing my rings is concious. I wear one ring around people who dont yet know we are separated. I took them off because a friend suggested that h was allowing me to be a single woman again and it's not about finding someone else or dating it's a detach/grow thing. A reminder of the young independant woman I was when I married 20 years ago!

[Wed2Him?Whatever.]

Need advice.

I've lost a few more pounds, which brings me to a total of 45 lbs. lost since BD.  It has really gotten hard to keep my engagement ring and wedding band on my finger.  One time the ring simply fell off my finger straight down to the floor, another time when I'd started moving my hand around it got flung from my finger almost across the room.  I actually had to have a jeweler make these rings bigger years ago so they are not the same size they were on my wedding day.  I can't keep losing weight and expect I will not lose them.  Do I get them re-sized?  Do I put them away?  Do I mention it to my H?

I'm leaning towards simply putting them away; do you think that would be a bad idea?

[Strong girl]

Wed,

I would just take them off. IF your h, asks just tell him the truth.  That they are too big and you were afraid of losing them. Short and simple.

Plus he doesn't wear his so who gives a hoot ya know!!?? & maybe it will make him take notice. Who knows. I just say keep them safe. Take them off.

Just my .02

((HUGS))) SG

[Gallagher]

My H takes his rings off right after work every day.  I guess he's done this for a long time.  It bothers me now, but should it?  He is wearing it out in public.  Says that he doesn't need to wear it at home because he knows we are married and committed. 

Seems to me he forgot that for awhile.....

I wear mine.  Except for the two weeks he left and I took them off, I still do.

[Phoenix]

I wore ring for a good while even after H. moved out (he took his off right away), but one night as I tortured myself with our wedding video (not recommended  ) I listened to the part where we exchanged rings. As H put the ring on my finger, he pledged his love, honor, and fidelity... Well that had been broken and the ring lost its meaning for me. My ring to him still holds the vow and promise, but not his to me, so it felt empty and like a lie upon my finger. It is tucked safely away with other memories to be brought out perhaps when the pain is not as raw. I'm not sure I could wear that same ring again and feel the way I once did about it. Perhaps new rings for a new marriage if ever we were to reconcile.
Phoenix

[NoRegrets]

I'm going to sell mine and use the money on a vacation with my children.

I don't believe it was given to me as a gift from his heart, anyway. I believe he was very ambivalent about the whole thing, though I was carrying the baby he so badly wanted to have at the time.

[moc]

At this time I am not wearing it.  After BD I wore it for about 7 months until I got fed up one night in a tiff and took it off.  I felt guilty for a small bit had been reading here also to get a feel.  I think it did take some pressure off of my wife as she hadn't worn hers since BD.  She did wear them for about a few days when they were they only jewelry left after a theft but has sense taken them off.  They are sitting on a ring holder in the bathroom just taunting me (he he he).  She knows it hurts me very bad not so see her wear them.  I mean most ladies especially within the first years of marriage have dreams of flushing down the toilet on accident, dropping them down the garbage disposal and even swallowing them (so I have heard).  My wife would make me drive back home to go get them when we were first married if she forgot them.  Now, she can't bear putting them on.  Sure did I hear per MLC script that they were too loose.  BS!  Go get them fitted or come with me and we will get them resized.

Really, I like the whole verbiage that I will not wear mine until she decides to put it back on my finger.  I still have it and it is pretty unique for me as I am not a diamond type of guy.  I usually just like a nice gold band but she insisted on this one as we were marrying. 

[Thundarr]

Around the time my W stopped wearing hers, a story came out in the local paper about a woman's wedding band that had been left in a donation bucket for a local charity.  No one ever claimed it, and I was saddened to see that where it was found was right on my W's route home.  I asked her if that was hers and she said that hers was in the bottom of her purse but has never produced it for me to see.  D11 saw the story and thought the same thing.  21 years together reduced to pocket change, literally.