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What What is the status of your wedding ring?

Still wear your wedding ring
42 (35.3%)
If not is it on a necklace, other hand or something
6 (5%)
Have it safely tucked away
60 (50.4%)
Gave it back
7 (5.9%)
Never had one never needed one
4 (3.4%)

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#120: March 06, 2012, 03:54:54 AM
I wore mine on and off for a few weeks after H left but it now resides in a zipped pocket in the coin section of my purse. I have been thinking about taking it out of there and putting it in a drawer with my original wedding ring that it replaced. I only started wearing my current ring last year as it was a gift for our 15th wedding anniversary. I never liked wearing rings but now I miss not wearing it. I feel like everyone sees my bare finger and knows what's going on.
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Re: Wedding Rings
#121: March 06, 2012, 06:34:31 AM
My ring "status" isn't on the Poll.  I still wear my two diamond bands but on the right hand......not on the left........since I am divorced.  I do not wear my engagement ring at all.
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#122: March 06, 2012, 06:59:12 AM
I wear my grandmother's wedding ring on my right hand.

She was a classy woman, and this ring is a reminder to take the high road. It also is a reminder to me of what a man will do for his wife when he LOVES her--it's a beautiful ring and my grandfather adored my grandmother.

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Re: Wedding Rings
#123: March 06, 2012, 09:35:03 AM
I wore mine for several months after H moved out last year but have since taken them off and placed them in a pouch inside my Bible (in 1 Corinthians). I kept them in my pocket for several months too...slept with them on...but finally just tucked them away in the Bible.  Seemed appropriate.  If I wear those rings again, I want H to put them back on me to show me his recommittment to our marriage.  He took his off a week after he moved into his fantasy-land apartment last March.  Looking at his hands makes me so sad.  For some reason, his hands look so different to me and it bothers me to look at them.  It's not even the lack of the wedding band there...it is just something about them that strikes me as so odd.  I've often said though that I don't even feel like H looks much like MY H.  He looks like someone else put on H's skin (sorry if that sounds gory) and it doesn't quite fit right.  He just looks alien to me. 

Anyway...that's my situation with the rings.  I MISS mine so much and feel naked without them.   :'( :'( :'(
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Re: Wedding Rings
#124: March 06, 2012, 09:58:58 AM
I wore mine for a time.......I don't now...........H lost his a few yrs ago anyway last week i was thinking about his wedding ring and mentioned it in my prayers ...........the day after i was sorting out my bedroom ready for decorating and there it was in a locked box along with some of h's stuff :o :o :o :o....the thing is we had previously turned the house upside down looking for it ............God sent me a sign so ive put it away for safe keeping  ;D ;D ;D xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Re: Wedding Rings
#125: March 06, 2012, 10:46:24 AM
I took mine off I think after BD #2... It felt liberating as he was not wearing his. I never faltered on my commitment but the ring was a symbol and all meaning in that ring was lost.

We have discussed the rings lately and he has agreed that we will get new ones for each other to recommit and start new.

My h, doesn't like that I don't wear mine. He is afraid of men hitting on me. I told him flat out my old set lost every bit of meaning........
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Re: Wedding Rings
#126: March 06, 2012, 11:32:56 AM
I got the "lost weight and it was falling off "script. He took it off during his whole detachment phase. ( he still lives here). I took mine off about 6 months after him and I'm not wearing it again until I'm married. It is one of the things that really bothers me.

It really irritates him that I don't wear mine and makes comment about it when I go out anywhere. I just answer with I will when you will and smile at him. He broke the vows he made with it, so it's a broken ring in my eyes.
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Re: Wedding Rings
#127: March 06, 2012, 12:20:12 PM
I still wear my wedding rings. They are a symbol of my love for my h and my commitment to my marriage. My h still wears his, at BD told that he would still wear it and has never taken it off.

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Re: Wedding Rings
#128: December 04, 2012, 04:07:59 PM
Bumping this up as I had a request from an LBSer if I still wear my wedding rings...I do.
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Re: Wedding Rings
#129: December 04, 2012, 05:06:39 PM
I still wear mine, but I'm getting close to taking it off. 
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