[What What is the status of your wedding ring?]

What What is the status of your wedding ring?

Still wear your wedding ring

42 (35.3%)

If not is it on a necklace, other hand or something

6 (5%)

Have it safely tucked away

60 (50.4%)

Gave it back

7 (5.9%)

Never had one never needed one

4 (3.4%)

Total Members Voted: 118

[Gallagher]

I took mine off when he moved out.  I have never put the original wedding ring back on.  I have been wearing the 10 year anniversary band on my ring finger when he asked to come home and he broke things off with MOW in Nov. 2011.  To me, the marriage and the ring were broken.   Won't ever put it on until it is changed in some fashion.  H bought me a new anniversary band for our 18th this past Nov. 18th.  I may wear that instead?

I think it's a really personal decision.  But for me it's almost a physical reaction.  I can't put that original ring on.

[Slow Fade]

I still wear mine as a symbol of my stand. Sometimes I wonder why. He broke his vows, but I didn't break mine and not wearing it just reminds me more of our situation.

[Alwaysthere]

I removed my ring sometime after H left as he had stopped wearing his.  I also feel that the circle of fidelity , love and trust that it symbolizes was broken by H. 

As many have stated on various threads that marriage is dead if H returns to me I believe new rings that symbolize a new marriage would be appropriate. I will keep my original ring tucked away because I will always cherish it. 

Side note of sorts.  H started sporting a silver band on his ring finger about 3 months post BD.  suspect OW has a matching one.   .  Pretend MLC marriage.

P.S.  I still wear some type of ring on that finger because I feel odd without one.

[Ready2Transform]

Side note of sorts.  H started sporting a silver band on his ring finger about 3 months post BD.  suspect OW has a matching one.   .  Pretend MLC marriage.

Mine bought OW a silver band on my dime about 5 months pre-BD, and I suspect the necklace he wouldn't take off was his equivalent.  Who does that that isn't 15?!

[crazyjourney]

H sent me email not long after bd saying he had taken his ring off but he would keep it in a safe place because of everything it had brought him and that he would treasure it always or words to that effect.

I sent one back saying I had taken mine off too although it was not what I wanted but obviously he did and I wouldnt wear mine if he was most likely going to date other people which I thought was why he was taking his off, little did I know he had already met ow, later he made out he didnt know if he had still been wearing his ring when he met her.

Both my engagement and our weddings rings were made by a jeweller friend and I wouldnt give them back to be hallmarked after we had them to try for size, which made them only really valuable to us, it was just something I wanted, it made them more special to me somehow.

Anyway mine are in a drawer and I dont think I will ever want to wear them again, but then again I dont know, bit like the way I feel about h too.

I do want him to come through because living with all of the nonsense is a nightmare, but what will be left I dont think anyone really knows until it happens.

x

[Moving Forward]

I stopped wearing mine a few months after BD - I have had them professionally cleaned and they are in my jewellry box in my safe. My engagement ring will go to my daughter when she is older for either wearing or to break up and use the component parts for a new piece of jewellry. My eternity ring which is traditionally bought after the birth of your first child is to go to my son for either his wife when his first child is born or for him to sell/break up etc.

The other jewellry my exH bought I still wear every single day. They were all given to me out of love at the time and just because he doesn't like me anymore doesn't mean I shouldn't wear my jewellry with pride!

My gold wedding band....is still very important to me. I took my vows in Church. I have it safely tucked away until I decide what I want to do with it. I am sure something will tell happen to guide me!

Ultimately there is no right or wrong answers here - you have to do what feels right for you at the time.

[Wed2Him?Whatever.]

I posted on this thread back in March asking whether I should remove my rings, or keep them on.  I ended up keeping them on until I lost even more weight and had no choice but to remove them so I wouldn't lose them.  That was probably second week of October, if I'm remembering correctly.  So I truly feel that I kept them on a longer time than anybody could have expected me to, especially since to get them resized costs extra money that I just don't have, thanks to Mr. Wed's abandoning every financial responsibility created during his unfortunate incarceration/marriage.
The fact is, if they still fit, I would still more than likely be wearing them.  It was no emotional decision that led me to put them away, just a common sense one that I couldn't stand it if they someday fell off without me realizing it and were not found.
There are two rings my H bought me that I do still wear, and are on my right hand.

[Thundarr]

W wears no rings anymore at all, and I have every reason to believe she "donated" her wedding band by putting it in a donation bucket between here and the town she moved to after BD.  The article came out in the paper that someone had put a wedding band in there, and the location and description (along with the fact that W's has never been seen since) told me all I needed to know.  So, after 18 years of marriage W's wedding band meant no more to her than pocket change.  Nice.

[eternallyoptimistic]

I had stopped wearing mine for awhile...because I didn't know what to do...but at Thanksgiving we both put them back on to make everything normal during the holidays. I asked h if he wanted me to wear mine for always and he said yes...I wanted to keep wearing it anyways but I wanted him to want me to. So I've been wearing it every since...it actually makes me feel better with it on.

[31andcounting]

My rings are off and I am really srtuggling with that decision.  I'm not sure why I took them off, I think it was because he is not wearing his.  But now I am feeling that that is not a good enough reason!!!  I have stood for my marriage, I continue to stand for my marriage Why don't I wear them???  Almost does not seem like an issue to be so concerned about but I am.