[What What is the status of your wedding ring?]

What What is the status of your wedding ring?

Still wear your wedding ring

42 (35.3%)

If not is it on a necklace, other hand or something

6 (5%)

Have it safely tucked away

60 (50.4%)

Gave it back

7 (5.9%)

Never had one never needed one

4 (3.4%)

Total Members Voted: 118

[Synicca]

My H hardly ever wore his to begin with, Said he couldn't because of his job...

He is an electrician....ya I get it, but he works on electrical programming now and has for about
7 years...he only wore it when "he remembered"

I hadn't wore mine in a couple of years ( gained weight ) but now after the MLC diet. I can wear it again.
I had been wearing it up until about 2 months ago.

My H just noticed last week I wasn't wearing it anymore and asked me why?

I told him, it was more for me and now it doesn't matter.

I wont put it back on until I see a commitment from my H again. If I don't, Oh well.
It will stay in my jewelry box.

[Rebel Yell]

I had told P that I was going to wait for her to put it on my finger but there it is!
I ordered a new cheap one that I plan on wearing, for me it will say I'm married
to everyone but it won't be the "real ring" if that makes any sense.
It should come in soon. When it does I'll swap them.
So 2 rings in the span of 1 week.

[Ibelieve]

I keep putting mine on and off, on and off... I don't know why. I guess it's my mood for that week or month. I just recently started doing this.
I had mine off when I saw him the other day. He doesn't wear his, so I decided not to have mine on when we saw each other.
He did not say anything. I put it right back on the next day, because it just feels really weird with it off. Next week may be different.
But, for now it's on.

[wondering]

I wear mine. I've taken it off a couple of times but it doesn't feel right. Plus I like to stick it to Ow when she sees me.

[With Gods Help!]

Hi,

my h took my rings when he left the last time....however a few wks ago i was out and h came to the pub i was in....there was a big footie match on.......anyway before h came in i had been getting chatted up by another man....i enjoyed the attention but wouldn’t take the other man on his offer...this man bugged me for 2 hrs, he continued to bug when came to the pub, other man proceeded to chat me up right in front of my h other man was only 27yrs old i am 42 lol....anyway h shouted at other man and told him to leave me alone, that i was his wife ...he looked at my hand and asked me where my rings were....i told him he had them he had forgot he took them other man continued to talk to me and h got angry with him and even threatened him............later other man came and apologized to my h and then kissed my hand and said sorry i didn’t realize you was married you aren’t wearing any rings .i told him it was ok.....................h brought back my rings the very next day and said i wasn’t to go out without them i told him when he decides to treat me like his wife and stop committing adultery then i would until then i was free to do as i please.........these mlcers are cuckoo lol xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx 

[Covenant for Life]

I wear my engagement ring, wedding ring, and ten year anniversary ring - all on my left ring finger.  My rings symbolize the covenant vow I made before God and though my H has chosen to leave, God still honors those vows.  I have no intention of taking my rings off.  To me, wearing my rings also helps in my stand as they show that I am not available.

My H's wedding band sits in my Bible - in the book of Mark - right on top of the scripture that says "A man shall not divorce his wife."  H did wear his ring for two months after moving out, but then after deciding he wanted a D, he took it off.

[truth_seeker]

I wear a new wedding band ring I bought myself and the mothers day ring my H bought me.  Both have significant meaning.  My original wedding ring was of our youth and lost a stone a few months before BD and was never replaced.  I was devastated when I lost a stone but now I realize I lost more than I could've imagined. Maybe it wasn't a coincidence a stone fell off after all the years together and just prior to BD. 

The stone will be replaced if there is a reconciliation / rebuilding of our marriage.  But the ring will no longer be the same as it will need to reflect a mature/healthy marriage.  I've never been one to wear much jewelry but each piece is symbolic and this will be no different.  I have started to accept my old marriage is dead and continue to grieve but I do not want to go back to where it was.  As I grow through this experience I realize I want a healthy relationship built on mutual respect, honesty, compassion and love.  This is not the marriage I have today but someday I hope and pray it will be that and much much more. 

[unbroken]

h brought back my rings the very next day and said i wasn’t to go out without them i told him when he decides to treat me like his wife and stop committing adultery then i would until then i was free to do as i please...

Wow.  Good story.  And love the fact that you didn't just put them back on.

[Hope for Zen]

I still wear mine, even though the divorce has been filed and H tells people we are divorced.  I will probably continue to wear it after the divorce is final.  Why is more complicated, but bassically, I'm not available or ready for a new R. 

[Glimmer]

Do you think that the wearing or not wearing of your wedding ring, has any influence or effect on your MLCer's behaviour during the crisis?
 
Depending on my mood in relation to my Hs behaviour I alternate between wearing and not wearing my wedding ring.  It has got me thinking could this have any influence or effect on how he views me during the crisis and whether this adds to his confusion as to 'where I stand'. 

If you are in contact with your MLCer could the wearing of a wedding ring make them feel pressurised or reassured that we still want to be married to them.   On the otherhand, if we choose not to wear it could they see this as indifference or that they feel we have given up on them, or relief that they believe we have accepted that the marriage is over.

Then again there is also the possiblity that they wouldn't even notice either way.

Thoughts anyone?