[What What is the status of your wedding ring?]

What What is the status of your wedding ring?

Still wear your wedding ring

42 (35.3%)

If not is it on a necklace, other hand or something

6 (5%)

Have it safely tucked away

60 (50.4%)

Gave it back

7 (5.9%)

Never had one never needed one

4 (3.4%)

Total Members Voted: 118

[Returned]

My H took his ring off about 2 years before BD, insisted he didnt like rings. I kept wearing mine for another year...but eventually put it away, can 't remember why. Anyway after BD I desperately needed money for S19 college tuition...and since the price of gold was at a peak, well...it went for college tuition, as did H's car which my son also sold. I felt it was a good and appropriate use, and I still do. The important thing is the children.

[eloise61213]

I TOOK mine off after his last visit and more lies.

Also, he NEVER wears his. So last summer, I saw it lying around and I took it back with me to remind me of him. This was before I knew of his agenda and BD>
After BD, he told me he couldn't find his ring and I told him I had it. When he was here, I gave it back to him and he "pretended" to wear it. 
Now, as I am thinking, why all of the sudden he wants his ring back? Is he so "in love" with OW that he is pretending he is married to her with OUR blessed wedding ring? I know I shouldn't be putting these thoughts in my head but just curious, Your feedback???

[2.roads]

I thought I posted to this question....but maybe not. 

I wore my wedding rings for several months after BD2 but then I lost 35lbs after an extended Crohn's flare up and they became too loose.

I was keeping them in a heart shaped wooden box that H bought me in Costa Rica in 2006. One day, about 14 months ago, he came to the house while I was out for some of his stuff (this was when he was officially moving in with the OW) and the little box and rings disappeared that day. Obviously he took them for some bizarre and unexplanable reason.

I wore a small heart shaped sapphire ring on my ring-finger for a while....but came to  place where I wondered why. So I took it off. I still feel naked without them and sometimes catch myself trying to fiddle with my rings, as I used to do that when I was nervous...

I had a VERY vivid dream a while ago that I was getting married, to a faceless man, ...what's with that?...and when he asked me to pick out a ring I hesitated and said "A ring is a flimsy promise...when people are done with you they just take them off." So he takes me to this woman who is a tattoo artist and he has her tattoo a band on his ring finger and says "This is how certain I am that I will never want to take my ring off" and then he asked me to get one too.......

Hmmmmmmm......

[Mitzpah]

I guess I owe an update here, since

H. never wore a wedding ring. I wonder if he will wear one now

Yah, i think he also doesn't wear that ring..

My h. wears a wedding ring now Since Christmas 2012 according to the kids.

I suppose, confirmation that they change radically...

I still wear a wedding band but not my original ring, that one is put away.

I am still married - I just don't seem to have a husband. Actually, I do - the Lord is my husband!

[panda]

My H took his off and placed on other hand about a month after BD and then asked me why I was upset about it.   

I still wear mine.

He mostly wears his on his right hand but he has worn it on his left hand on a number of occasions and when his mood has changed his ring has then been switched to his right hand (odd).

[Madmax]

When I first responded to this thread I see now I was early in the process.  My h took his off when he was in replay then would put it back on when he came home.  I then about 2 months ago he took it off and left it in his briefcase.  He put it on for our anniversary a couple of weeks ago, but then took it off the next day when he cycled back into replay.  Tired of his toying with me, I asked him to give it to me for safe keeping and that if he ever acts like my husband I'll give it back. 

Was this a bad thing for me to do?

[LearningIamOk]

I don't think it was a bad thing to do. It's how you felt and you need to be true to yourself.

I took mine off shortly after BD. My H never wore one. I do miss mine. I am missing it a lot lately, but I have no desire to put it back on.

[I reckon so]

Mine bought OW a silver band on my dime about 5 months pre-BD, and I suspect the necklace he wouldn't take off was his equivalent.  Who does that that isn't 15?!

Did he give her his senior letter jacket to wear as well?

[SSG]

Two years ago my H broke his ring finger and would not get it fixed correctly.  So he could not wear his ring.  Came in handy the next year when he started his affair.  I asked several times (knew nothing about an affair) if we should get it resized...after the third try I gave up.  Now I know why. I put his in my jewelry box.  I wear my ring proudly and in front of him when I see him.

I did ask a month or two after BD if we should sell them (to get extra money)..he freaked and said no, we do not sell the rings.
Goes along with him not wanting a divorce.... something to give me hope for later....

SSG

[Lanzo]

I had now idea where my wedding ring was, I took it off after W first went off with OM#1, I put  in its box and then in my bedside cabinet for safe keeping. W went  snooping managed to retrieved it. When we decided to work on the M W handed it back to me minus the box and I put it back on.

 When went back to OM#1 I took it off again and  I thought I had put it in a safe place for later. Recently when I went looking for it I couldn’t find it, it was only when I was reading through my old post on the DB site that I realised that I had handed the ring back to W.

I wished I had kept the ring, my fingers are big and the ring size was Z+1, there’s  a lot of gold there and W had probably melted it down as that’s what she used to do with old jewellery.

 I can’t be bothered asking her about it now, that chapters done.

Lanzo