[SpecialK]

Has anyone on here walked away from their Partner?

[readytofixmyselffirst]

Sorry Special K, could you tell me what you mean by walk away? I am a literal person at times. Does this mean leave for a period of time?

[SpecialK]

Sorry, I meant walk away for good after the bomb was dropped and started a new life for themselves

SKx

[True to myself]

I've felt like it a few times, but something keeps stopping me from letting go altogether and totally walking away. At first I thought it was fear holding me here, but I don't think it's that now. Guess I still love the man, even though he's a prize prat 

I just think we will know if the time comes to move on. Something would change.

xx

[OliveOyl]

I feel like I'm at this cross road right now.  But, it's easy to believe this when in NC.  We'll see after a few weeks have gone by.  My H will be back in town this Thursday.  I have been really letting go and accepting and since I have moved from crying every day to can't cry anymore.  Strange...

[whatever]

I'm stuggling right now with this same issue.  Since H told me he wants a divorce I am really struggling.  I've spent a lot of time on this site this last weekend reading and trying really hard to search my heart.  I just don't know if I am tough enough to do it.  I did appreciate someone saying they are standing to work on themselves.  I think having this attitude would help me. 
Standing has to be a focus on me...rushing into another relationship will cloud my journey and what I'm trying to learn...but it is
so hard to live day in and day out with absolutely nothing ...no affection...no partner ...nothing. 

[readytofixmyselffirst]

In the beginning, I was thinking about running away. I was going to take the girls and move to my parent's house. But, I realized that I needed to stay in my home and face the issues rather than taking off.

I have also dreamt of dramatically leaving letting her know that when she was ready, she could get her family back. It would have all been drama and it would have gone nowhere.

Now, I have seen some movement forward and I just mirror her actions. But of course, hope is good, no expectations.

(((Hugs))) and more (((Hugs)))

[xyzcf]

so hard to live day in and day out with absolutely nothing ...no affection...no partner ...nothing.

  Whatever, this is indeed a very deep and difficult thing to do.  Prior to this, I had never lived on my own and boy, this is really, really living alone because I have no family here and when I was sent home to Colorado, I had only been here a short time and truly did not have many friends. I still don't even have any pets which I always did before.

Slowly, ever so slowly I am getting in touch with the need to know myself...and that I can only do this on my own journey. I don't want to do this but...God or the universe or karma or whatever is insisting in a very strong way.

What have I found??? Amazing friendships and caring people, faith and an attempt to be still..we are all suffering from that lack of affection and partnership. So hard to see couples when I go out.

It's really your own decision if you wish to find someone else in your life or not. You'll find that out as well and the answer may surprise you..it did me as I seem to be forever attached to this notion that I will always be married to my Beloved..whether or not we are together, he's still my husband and I his wife. Somedays I wish I were not so stubborn but that seems the right choice for me.

It gets easier being alone and I think about the women I know and admire who are walking their path by themselves....but each of us will know what is the right direction for us. Take care, hope a friend shows up today for you via a phone call, an email, a card..or of course here!

[subooru]

Hi Special K:

Boy, can I relate to this question today.  Over the weekend due to more drama from my H and his turning back on his statements about reconciliation, I was ready to say, enough, I can't do anymore.  Something stopped me.  I really do love my H, and for now I want to keep standing.  My H is in a very bad place, and while he won't acknowledge his depression, I don't want to leave him when he is in such a bad place.  It is extremely hard to have no love, affection, support or connection.  But, I will keep keeping on.  I know there may come a day when I know I can't continue (if nothing changes), but that day has not yet come for me.  Blessings and love to you.  You must do what works for you regardless of other's opinions or experiences.  Trust yourself.

[NinjaGirl]

.but it is so hard to live day in and day out with absolutely nothing ...no affection...no partner ...nothing.

Whatever.

Don't look at life that way, it's no way to live.  Be grateful for the people that *are* around you.  There are people that appreciate and love you for you.  Most importantly, *you* have to love you for you.

All of us need to be able to stand on our own as individuals before entering into any relationship.  I've never liked it when people say "you complete me".  We each are individuals, and as such we each should be whole in ourselves before entering into any relationship.  We need to be able to support ourselves financially and emotionally and not depend on someone else to do it for us.  We should look for partners that enhance us, not complete us.

I think that's what got a lot of our spouse's into this whole mess.  A lot of them became too intertwined and lost themselves in their relationships.  You have to know and love yourself as an individual before anyone else can love you for you.

We come into this world alone.  Along the way we will build and lose relationships that will help mold us into who we are.  But in the end, we also leave this world alone.  We truly only have ourselves.

Hang in there Whatever...  we're here for you!