Hey Terrified....Ugh! that is awful. Sooooo sorry. I cannot remember if you have already started your divorce procedure. If yes, ask your lawyer for a guardian ad litem for your child. Jackolar has a good point as well, but not sure if you want to get social service involved.
I dislike it when people kept telling me that children are resilient. They are not. Kids need to be in a stable loving environment, not bouncing them off from one caregiver to the next to go partying. if not, they will be messed up when they are grown up :-(
Yes, I have started divorce. We have a temp custody hearing on the 27th. TN doesn't take adultery into account when dividing property or considering child custody, so I have that working against me. But I have other things in my favor. I have no idea what to expect, but we will soon see.
I also believe children are not as resilient as many make them out to be. My 5yo called me when she received a gift that I mailed, and she made me a card; W read it to me and it said "mom loves daddy", to which my W said "I will have to have a talk with her about that". Yes, poor girl is going to be so confused.
Also found out this morning that w and bro had a falling out (she lives with bro in family home), so she ended up over OM's house WITH MY 5 YO!!! Am pissed off.
-EDIT- By the way, there is no law against being poor, but a girl at work actually had this thought and did the leg work for me:
Although my wife is staying with her bro in the "family home", it sounds better than it really is. Total appraisal value of the family home: $4,500. I live in a decent middle class neighbourhood. Got to get my girl out of there, and all of my w's siblings but ONE agrees!
-Terrified