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#100: October 19, 2014, 07:11:49 PM
Sitch means situation/case.
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#101: October 19, 2014, 07:16:37 PM
Thanks Anjae... :)

UL, sounds like you have some control with your hearing!.. his 'escape' though makes things tough ...I guess I would try my best to get what you need at the Emergency hearing and I hope he shows!

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#102: October 19, 2014, 07:16:52 PM
Oh thanks!
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#103: October 19, 2014, 07:21:43 PM
Well, he wants this divorce like NOW so you would think even an emergency hearing would be something he would show up to. I just have to get it on the calendar.  But who knows, he has already done a few things that doesn't make him look well in the eyes of the attorney's. I don't even know when he will be back in the state. Crazy stuff from a guy who never did anything wrong, never had any drama but looking back never voiced anything. Lots of stuff going on in his head no one knew about.
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#104: October 19, 2014, 07:26:55 PM
When MeNow said the LBS was still innocent I took it not to mean in the "young and naive" sense but in the innocent vs. guilty sense.  The MLCer will always be guilty of having had the affair and the LBS (in most cases) will always be able to carry their innocence of not having done the same.

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#105: October 19, 2014, 07:32:53 PM
UL,

I hear you, my ex was a CCD teacher (church)  ... MLC escapes nobody if they have been 'destined' to receive it.... (FOO)...
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#106: October 19, 2014, 07:44:12 PM
UL,

My ex is covered in tattoo's now ( never had one), has fake boobs and 'runs' with a dude who looks like a biker (yet does not have one..lol)  and listens to the group called 'five finger death punch'...If that doesn't scream 'something' (MLC)..nothing does... :)
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#107: October 19, 2014, 08:03:53 PM
Oh my gosh! Yep, that screams MLC. My H is on blood thinners so I don't see that happening but he did go after our Retirement plan.  I think my H is trying to be the poster child for the description of MLC, he can't afford a new slick car though so that probably won't happen.  Along with that of course he trust no one and is into conspircy stuff and is sure he will die before his 60 because he has heart issue that are under control but now that he doesn't have health insurance he could be working to make his death a reality.
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#108: October 19, 2014, 08:19:16 PM
omg rookie, my h started listening to five finger death punch about 5 months ago. i swear this is all just too weird.
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Re: The OW/M - Alienator - ARE WE Kidding Ourselves?
#109: October 20, 2014, 01:32:41 AM
Rookie and blackice,

It mad me laugh when you talked about Five Finger Death Punch.  Not that there is ANYTHING funny about any of this, but that is the type of music I have always liked.  My X was into country and 70's music, mainly.  Hated hard rock and thought it was a lot of noise.

When he first went into his crisis he started downloading music by Disturbed, Charm City Devils, Godsmack and many other hard rock groups.  What?  He hated that kind of noise!  Bought an IPod so he could listen to his music at home.  Even sang along with the songs. (my poor ears)  lol

It took him about 2 years and he's now back to Eddie Rabbit and his mellow music.   :)

I just thought this was significant to mention because it shows you what chaos is going on in their head when they are is crisis.  The music is noisy, aggressive, twisted and loud, just like their mind is.

Hang in, it gets better.  It's not who they really are.  They just need time to work through their chaotic mess.
The personalities you see now are them trying to be someone completely different from who they were.  Their in a fantasy at the moment.  Can't live in a fantasy forever.


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