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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: No Contact II
#50: March 15, 2015, 02:50:49 AM
Financial independence is a bless!  :'(
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Re: No Contact II
#51: March 15, 2015, 04:30:13 AM
I know. In the US there is help to pay for rent and some utilities. I'm not sure about where you live.

Do you have a friend or relative you can stay with and remove yourself from the games?

Make no more plans or anything else with him. He does this to set you up.

Get out of the house when you can. Make plans that don't include him. Church or any other social activity.

If he asks you to do something reply "I'm not interested"
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact II
#52: March 18, 2015, 04:51:32 AM
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact II
#53: March 18, 2015, 05:20:39 AM
Hi, init,

How was your st. Patrick's Day?
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Re: No Contact II
#54: March 18, 2015, 05:22:31 AM
OK I guess.. I worked.

I stopped Sunday in the afternoon at a tavern that had some acoustic music and had dinner with a friend.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact II
#55: March 20, 2015, 02:18:49 PM
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Re: No Contact II
#56: April 05, 2015, 02:48:51 AM
In 23 more days it's two years of NC. My kind of party.

After 32 years of bull$h!te.  I finally have some peace. I understand what I want are people in my life that help make it easier- not harder.

NC isn't to punish them it's to help gain perpective and heal. Find balance and be grateful and focus on what you do have instead of what you don't.

It's who you have in your life that matters and not who you don't. I'm starting to tell people about how I feel about them without worrying if they feel the same.

I'm discovering being brave is doing something that scares the $h!te right out of you. With no expectations.

Please do not waste your emotion on someone who isn't capable of feeling them in regards to this teenage phase of life they have entered. They hate themselves and therefore cannot love others.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact II
#57: April 05, 2015, 06:36:19 AM
I am 10 months post Divorce and I am NC with xW, as far as NC can go when you have a child together.

Random text from xW are ignored, the temptation to send her snotty emails is resisted.

NC is used to heal yourself and not  punish the MLC’er although they do seem to exception to that.

Without NC I would not be as healed as I am today.

I fully endorse the use of NC  to protect and heal yourself.


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Re: No Contact II
#58: April 05, 2015, 07:15:40 AM
Since their main goal is our ATTENTION and their focus is CONTROL. Of course they would take exception.

Keep up the good work Lanzo..they will do their level best to bring us down if possible.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact II
#59: April 07, 2015, 07:31:44 PM
If you have tried everything else and are some ready for some peace..give it a try..nothing else worked for me.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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