[blackice]

my h called himself a douchebag the other day. i just looked at him and said well ok then.

he knows he is being an idiot which makes this even more fun for me when i can catch him on something and he happens to be in the mood to not get upset about it.

[Thunder]

You guys are killing me!  Nah, mine would be laughing at the new H too.  Especially the shaving of the gray hair thing.  lol

I mean, come on...shaving your chest?  Who does that?  Oh yeah, an MLCer.   

I'm having fun with this but I'm only kidding.  It's quite sad.
But laughing about it today is good for the soul.

[blackice]

laughter is the best medicine. in my culture we laugh about a lot of things to get through the pain. it's healing in a way, just like crying is healing in it's own way.

[nah]

You guys are killing me!  Nah, mine would be laughing at the new H too.  Especially the shaving of the gray hair thing.  lol

I mean, come on...shaving your chest?  Who does that?  Oh yeah, an MLCer.   

I'm having fun with this but I'm only kidding.  It's quite sad.
But laughing about it today is good for the soul.

Shaving his chest?...Please, mine had me shave his f'n back three days before BD.  Yep, I shaved his back so he would look good for her.  I also had to pluck his ear hair.  Lucky for me, he plucked his own eyebrows   
Yep, you can't make this $hit up.

[31andcounting]

Yep, mine started shaving front, back and #*hmm!  How could I not of known 
Seriously ...Stayed  It is so hard to imagine you as an introvert
Also, back from the first thread.  I don't know my BD date either Stayed and am kind of glad !  I know it was summer, July or August and I remember "the walk" we took 

nah your right, can't make this s*$t up!!
Just following along!
31andcounting

[blackice]

the only reason i remember my BD date is because it was my birthday weekend. yeah. nice.

[Thunder]

I only remember because it was the day after New Years, 2011.  Christmas and New Years were great!  Then my world crumbled.

It was like talking to some man who I never met before.  He looked like my H but those EYES!!  Black and dead.  Same voice but the words coming out of his mouth were NOT my H's.

shiver

[Anjae]

BD for me is the day Mr J left. I don't recall the exact time he first taked divorced. Somewhere during the Summer of 2006. I never heard the I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You, just recall a things are not working, I think we should divorce.

In fact I was assured that the issues was not that Mr J did not loved me or has stop being in love with me, it had to do with the fact that he had to do "this". This, I think, being having a MLC.

Of course a point come when there were divorcable offenses, those were, "I can never win an argument with you" (not true, he can), "You are more intelligent that I am" (true if we are talking of pure intellectual inteligence but I also was 20 years before and for 20 years that was never a problem), "You have no feelings, you never cry, you don't even cry on people's funeral" (true, I rarely cry but I have feelings, I have just never expressed them with crying. of course I cry, rarely but I do).

So that was it.  All very terrible things that have been exactly the same way since we meet and for 20 years. 

[Still Kicking]

I only remember BD Day as it was HIS birthday.  At first it wasn't ILYBINILWY.  It was that he had decided that I didn't love HIM anymore.  So of course I fell for all of the "faults" and tried to fix or discuss them but darned if in a weeks it turned out that it wasn't really all of those things he had said after all.  It was ILYBINILWY.  It was looking up what that phrase "really meant" that I found this site.

Before that i was looking up surviving adultry type sites and found the 180 thing and started doing it just out of survival.  And yes--running the other way did perk his interest and he actually decided to come back but it only lasted 2 days. 

[Searching4Answers]

In fact I was assured that the issues was not that Mr J did not loved me or has stop being in love with me, it had to do with the fact that he had to do "this". This, I think, being having a MLC.

That is interesting Anjae - I never got the ILYBINILWY either and it has always made wonder about it being MLC. I was also reassured that H loved me and would always love me, that this was something that he had to do! I don't know what he would say today.

My BD is easy to remember - 2 days before Christmas