[MeNow]

MeNow,

REALLY??  LOL
I'm sure it made perfect sense at the time, huh?   

Actually it didn't. I just didn't want to give up OW.

[MeNow]

Just to say that we have snuck rather craftily back onto what our MLCers say and not us.......

There are so many other threads that we can discuss the MLCer - let's try and keep this one special just for us!!

Craftily? I say rather openly!

[stayed]

So Blindside, what stage do you think you are in now?

1. Shock: "What the hell just happened?"

2. Denial: "This is so not happening."

3. Isolation: "I just want to sit in this all by myself."

4. Anger: "I hate you for breaking my heart!"

5. Bargaining: "What will it take to get him/her back?"

6. Depression: "I will never get over him/her."

7. Acceptance: "I understand why I was with him/her, why I'm not now, and that I will be better than just OK."

And how are you handling it?  I'm thinking your a bit angry Blindsided.  With good reason, but what are you going to do with it? 

Question for our resident expert OP, or Ziggy, is there any way we can have these stages up there in he title or something... they should be visible at all times... don't you think?

Hugs Stayed

[toomanytearss]

Is it possible to be in all those stages at the same time?  Cause I think I am.   

[living with Hope]

Is it possible to keep skipping a stage? 
I never have hit the anger stage and maybe that is why I never get to the acceptance part of it all?
Thoughts?

[Searching4Answers]

what stage do you think you are in now?

I firmly believe that I am in acceptance BUT for some reason I feel the pull of the other stages sometimes. I go for a long without thinking about what H has done and how he has treated me then my mind will bring up these things out of the blue. I don't really feel anything when this happens because I really don't care anymore but it seems strange to me. It is almost like mind is testing its resolve (if that makes any sense). Maybe it is a way for me to not forget what it is that I am dealing with seeing how H acts pretty normal most of t time.

[Medusa]

Is it possible to keep skipping a stage? 
I never have hit the anger stage and maybe that is why I never get to the acceptance part of it all?
Thoughts?

I believe its possible to skip a stage, but if we do, at some point we will experience it.

The stages are similar in many ways to what the MLCer is going through. Many of them skipped a developmental stage and are now going through it.

what stage do you think you are in now?

I firmly believe that I am in acceptance BUT for some reason I feel the pull of the other stages sometimes. I go for a long without thinking about what H has done and how he has treated me then my mind will bring up these things out of the blue. I don't really feel anything when this happens because I really don't care anymore but it seems strange to me. It is almost like mind is testing its resolve (if that makes any sense). Maybe it is a way for me to not forget what it is that I am dealing with seeing how H acts pretty normal most of t time.

I am the same, S4A. Feelings of irritation and, rarely, anger, come up with I have to interact with him because he's such a jerk. I think this is just our minds continuing to make sense out of what has/is happening.

[blackice]

i believe i am in acceptance. not to say  being in acceptance i do not still feel sadness over things. but i know i love him, i know i always will, and why we are not together now and i will be ok.

[Adia]

Does anyone find that their personal empathy for the MLCer hinders your own progression through the stages? For 2.5 years I've been going through the stages, (not so much so now) but my empathy remains for him thru each one I have gone through.

[blackice]

i don't think it has hindered me. it helps me understand what he is going through and in turn gives me strength to move forward knowing i am stronger because of it.