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MLC Monster Re: In what ways have you become opposites of what you were?
#20: October 05, 2011, 10:14:22 AM
Quote from: OliveOyl on November 24, 2010, 07:05:46 AM
I really struggle with this, which is why I don't feel like I'm changing.  I've always been independent.  My H always told me "you don't need me".  I did most things myself, especially financially.  I always responded back "I do need you, just not the way you think I should".

My husband also said to me that I didn't need him.  I like your response, I wish I had said what you said to your H, but I didn't think of it and didn't know what to say.

My biggest change has been my complete re-think of marital love.  I thought unconditional love was between parents and kids and if you had unconditional love in your marriage it meant you're a doormat.  Well, I know now that I want to love my H even those times (many during MLC) that he does not deserve for me or anyone else to love him.  I want to work on it more & more.
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