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MLC Monster Re: Re: LBS STAGES 3
#150: July 27, 2016, 12:41:33 PM
As much as I want to live in a corner and cry myself to sleep on some days, I still can't help but think this IS a gift, as OP so wisely says. My marriage was nowhere near perfect. I had resentful feelings. I could be mean. And I wasn't satisfied in my own life.  But I wasn't doing anything about it. Nope, I do want more. I want to be as happy and as fulfilled as I can possibly be. Maybe (and hopefully) that will be with my H. I can't bank on that right now.  But I can bank on me.
This is very well said KIT. I truly second that.
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Re: Re: LBS STAGES 3
#151: July 28, 2016, 07:16:54 AM
As much as I want to live in a corner and cry myself to sleep on some days, I still can't help but think this IS a gift, as OP so wisely says. My marriage was nowhere near perfect. I had resentful feelings. I could be mean. And I wasn't satisfied in my own life.  But I wasn't doing anything about it. Nope, I do want more. I want to be as happy and as fulfilled as I can possibly be. Maybe (and hopefully) that will be with my H. I can't bank on that right now.  But I can bank on me.
This is very well said KIT. I truly second that.
Ditto!
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Re: LBS STAGES 3
#152: August 01, 2016, 07:46:36 AM
Attaching....  This has given me a number of things to think about. Love the discussion.
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