[Braveheart]

My wife was depressed and confused and the OM is a narcissistic predator so I don't think hypergamy had anything to do with it. And I think the circumstances are much the same for many of us LBSes, both male and female.

Sometimes they just want to run when in that state and the OM is just a safe haven.

[OldPilot]

Sadly what I run into in the dating world is just that, divorced women looking for a better deal...

Maybe you are looking in the wrong places or for the wrong people.

Might be time to change something up there.

[Thundarr]

The group that doesnt deserve it and the has the strongest lobby is the LAWYERS!!

I believe they are behind almost everything that happens.

It is all about THEM making $$$$$.

f*ck lawyers (except Canuck).  Scum-sucking bottom-feeding low-life bastards.  I think everyone knows why I feel this way.  That is all.

[Mad Hatter]

How does the hypergamy work in my case then. My h's ow is less attractive, less confident and only 4 years younger than me. So at 40 she is past her childbearing years??

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hypergamy is a female thing, it does not apply to men. Your H's OW probably thinks he's a step up from what she had in her previous relationship.

Mate poaching! The OW probably had unsuccessful relationships as Braveheart suggested. Your H was/is married and irrelevant of who earns what, gives the appearance of successful man willing to commit and take responsibility. This is female "pre-selection" at work.

Combine that with the "forbidden fruit" and "want what you don't have" and she poaches your mate! Very common actually!

[Mad Hatter]

The group that doesnt deserve it and the has the strongest lobby is the LAWYERS!!

I believe they are behind almost everything that happens.

It is all about THEM making $$$$$.

f*ck lawyers (except Canuck).  Scum-sucking bottom-feeding low-life bastards.  I think everyone knows why I feel this way.  That is all.

Thundarr,

I like this "new you" with attitude! Please continue, sir! 

[sleepless]

The group that doesnt deserve it and the has the strongest lobby is the LAWYERS!!

I believe they are behind almost everything that happens.

It is all about THEM making $$$$$.

f*ck lawyers (except Canuck).  Scum-sucking bottom-feeding low-life bastards.  I think everyone knows why I feel this way.  That is all.

Thundarr,

I like this "new you" with attitude! Please continue, sir! 

Definitely agree with all three of you!

[Braveheart]

Sadly what I run into in the dating world is just that, divorced women looking for a better deal...

Maybe you are looking in the wrong places or for the wrong people.

Might be time to change something up there.

OP this last couple of years I've been to every social event I can fit into my schedule. I've hit all levels from $250.00 a plate Black Tie Gala's to free Street Dances, volunteered for several charities, taken dance lessons, joined a theater troupe and a half dozen "Meet Up" groups. I've also done the whole online dating thing as well....So there really is not much ground I haven't covered. My experience has been that the 45+ dating pool is full of drowning women, the ones that seem to have it all together are still married.

[Braveheart]

How does the hypergamy work in my case then. My h's ow is less attractive, less confident and only 4 years younger than me. So at 40 she is past her childbearing years??

Sd



X

hypergamy is a female thing, it does not apply to men. Your H's OW probably thinks he's a step up from what she had in her previous relationship.

Mate poaching! The OW probably had unsuccessful relationships as Braveheart suggested. Your H was/is married and irrelevant of who earns what, gives the appearance of successful man willing to commit and take responsibility. This is female "pre-selection" at work.

Combine that with the "forbidden fruit" and "want what you don't have" and she poaches your mate! Very common actually!

"Mate Poaching", that was the term I was looking for. Back in my married years that gambit was tried on me more than once by single women that knew my wife.

[MyBrainIsBroken]

f*ck lawyers (except Canuck).  Scum-sucking bottom-feeding low-life bastards.  I think everyone knows why I feel this way.  That is all.

Totally agree!

[limitless]

Sadly what I run into in the dating world is just that, divorced women looking for a better deal...

Maybe you are looking in the wrong places or for the wrong people.

Might be time to change something up there.

OP this last couple of years I've been to every social event I can fit into my schedule. I've hit all levels from $250.00 a plate Black Tie Gala's to free Street Dances, volunteered for several charities, taken dance lessons, joined a theater troupe and a half dozen "Meet Up" groups. I've also done the whole online dating thing as well....So there really is not much ground I haven't covered. My experience has been that the 45+ dating pool is full of drowning women, the ones that seem to have it all together are still married.

I can think of (at least) one who (thought she) had it all together...who is no longer married.

I don't think that I am unique.....

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