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Apparently my xp left me because I made him build a fence in the rain 5 years ago. Hmmmmm interesting thing was he had 6 months to build the fence and left it until the last minute plus the fence was for his niece. F@cken crazy a$$$ b@stards!!!

Kia kaha - stay strong

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"If we both should end up remarried, we should have an affair with each other".   ;D
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

When my runaway H casually announced during a rare telephone call that he'd met and married OW, he calmly said, "Aren't you going to wish me congratulations!"
 :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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"If we both should end up remarried, we should have an affair with each other".   ;D
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

When my runaway H casually announced during a rare telephone call that he'd met and married OW, he calmly said, "Aren't you going to wish me congratulations!"
 :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

I was going to say mine dropped off a 2lb tub of convenience store pimento cheese spread and it was a super random thing to do, then I read your post and realized that you already won this dubious prize :(
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after he’s through this crisis, wait five years, take out a wooden paddle and whack him on the ass for doing this to you!

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I found that post when mine first left In it. It's the best description I've ever found and printed it off.

My favorite thing I heard out of his mouth was ' I would always be in his life' Yeah that was the best. Then I met the hag with him and wrote him the goodbye letter. So I guess I was suppose to be ok with his new improved life and be in it as well. Ah nope!

I also got a text from him wishing me Happy Easter,while he was gone. Yes your family was having a happy Easter during this. I was nice though and didn't respond.
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Started seeing massive change over the summer 2012
Left end of October 2012
Started coming home thanksgiving 2013
Home now. March 2014
Believe ow is gone
Probably going through this for years
OW discovered Oct.23,2013,old GF from before we met at the age of 16!
Left again Oct. 20 2015
Came back two weeks later
Still here 01/17 not done yet
Home 2019,rebuilding

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mine dropped off a 2lb tub of convenience store pimento cheese spread and it was a super random thing to do
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

H came once  with a UHaul trailer to "get his stuff", and walked out the garage with a fishing rod and tackle box the size of a box of tissues!!!! ;D ;D ::)  That reminds me I have to get rid of his things, he's had enough time to get them.

When he first saw us after getting married, he insisted the kids and I look at his wedding ring over and over again and spoke of his soulmate and how they were destined to meet.  WTF.  Then proceeded to tell kids OW loved them. :o :( Idiot!  He was wearing cologne for the first time ever that I knew of and we kept saying, "WHAT'S THAT SMELL?" over and over. 

Told him must be nice that he met someone that he can travel with and go off to Vegas with and he said, "Yes, because you wouldn't".  ::)  Yes because I have to take care of our children and we could never afford it but most of all if we could, Vegas would be the last place I would go.

He sent an email which he said took him a few weeks to finish.  It was about 10 lines and written as if by a Martian.

After being away for almost 3 years he voiced how it was unfair that I parent alone ::) and that he didn't understand why S was upset with him. :o ::) ::) :(

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When he first saw us after getting married, he insisted the kids and I look at his wedding ring over and over again and spoke of his soulmate and how they were destined to meet.  WTF.  ...
WTF is right.  Guess the wedding vows with you was a "whoopsie"...his "bad".  Idiots.

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Yes Idiots.  It's too bad that Spok is not here to do a mind meld with them anymore!!   ;) ;) :)

Maybe he could have told us what was going on in their mixed-up minds.  Farewell Spok!!
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« Last Edit: February 28, 2015, 07:33:00 PM by OceanLady »
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Me 59
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S15, now S20, came home end of 6/15.
M   6/1994 (only marriage)
BD1 12/08 He told me to leave the house for no reason.  I did not leave my house or family.
BD2 3/10 he asked for a D
BD3 4/10 H filed for the D
BD4 5/10 H flew 1400 miles to see OW
BD5 6/10 he walked out w/OW in  tow
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Yep I got that too. I guess I was supposed to adopt the exow.

He once said (post D)

It was OK with him if we all go to the movies together

 uhmmmm I'm not sure what planet your living on buddy.

I remember holding the phone away from my ear and looking at it  ??? ??? :o :o

Then the idiot actually put her on our car insurance policy..pissed was not the word for it. I found out by going to the ins company over something else and two other vehilcles were listed. I hit the ceiling with that discovery.  I called and screamed at him told him I was OFF the policy and hung up on him.

Bizarre doesn't even begin to cover 1st BD. More like a freaking nightmare.
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« Last Edit: February 28, 2015, 09:02:20 PM by in it »
There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.

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It was OK with him if we all go to the movies together

 ;D ;D ;D

Yay, lucky you ::)!  I can't imagine a nicer evening!! I hope you went along  ;D ;D ;D
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Honest to God who says stuff like this?? There were sooooo many times I just should not have answered the phone it's pathetic.

Yep a B-I-G bucket of popcorn was in order the first time around. Along with a side of straight jacket.. ::)
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.

 

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