[twiceburnt]

Funny when it hit's you...Single ain't bad. It hit me when I was in the local grocery store on Valentines day last year. The place was full of harried husbands buying last minute roses and candy, none of them looked very happy about it. There I stood in my track pants and two days growth of beard suddenly smiling, I wasn't even aware it was Valentine's day. I took my bottle of merlot, steak and mushrooms home, did a fry up and watched "Flyboys" with the dog.

Lol, exactly.  I think this was one of the best Valentines Day's I've had in a while.  I didn't even have to worry about it other than getting some stuff for my son to hand out at school. 

[superdog]

Just imho,

There are two types of woman who do this with married men. Firstly the one with the low self esteem who has been cheated in herself. The woman who wants to remove the man from his wife as this confirms she is better. Indirectly she is getting revenge on the woman who did this to her. The woman who hates women.

The second type is the one who knows he is married and believes therefore he is not going to want her to follow through on anything more that a flirt or a bawdy joke. All go home with an ego boost and having had a bit of a laugh.

My take on that one.

Guess which category our ow's fit into.

Sd
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[Lanzo]

10 months divorced now,  no women hitting on me and I was wondering if I was becoming invisible to the opposite sex.

Then I read this quote from stayed.

I'm a very firm believer that we will not find anybody until we are truly READY to be with another.  I think we have much healing to do and until we are healed we are unable to love "fully".  I also believe that there are two types of LBS's.  There is the vulnerable type, that the opposite sex can spot a mile away and will rush in and take advantage of them.... or their are the "NOT INTERESTED" types.  The not interested type, gives off an aura that screams, NOT INTERESTED!  In anybody. 


When a not interested type becomes ready to live again, they attract like minded type of people.  Loving, caring, want to share their life with somebody type people.... just like themselves.   

So I'm just gonna keep doing what I'm doing and let my aura change of it's own accord.

Lanzo

[Split open and melt]

I think I may be one of the only guys here who's entered into another serious relationship shortly after divorce...against the advice of most everyone here.

its been 1 year with my GF and things are good. There have been some challenges for sure, sometimes she catches me being emotionally withdrawn. But I learned a lot through my marriage with my XW, especially after she walked away...and I'm trying hard to use what I've learned to build a better relationship.

I feel pretty lucky to have met this particular girl, and she feels the same. I like having a partner in life, and my kids are happy about it as well.

[Braveheart]

Lol Brave, yep..must be that smell! lol

Women who 'seemed' to want to sleep with me while I was married , walked away quite easily when my ring came off..hmmmm

Maybe they figured there was no wife to destroy for them anymore so what's the use of sleeping with me now! lol..

A guy with a woman passes the "Pre selected" barrier, basically if he's with her he's passed a test. I knew a guy that never did well with women until he started showing up a venues with good looking escorts ( no sex) he hired as eye candy... so yeah there's something to it.

[Braveheart]

Agree bh and I'd take it a step further and say I'm enjoyin being single. I've accepted my w isn't the same person I knew and isn't coming back. I enjoy my alone time and spend most of it at the gym or with my guy friends. Adding in dating is just something else to do. Not looking for an ltr but I'm open to all possibilities... No expectations.
Rookie... Most women are all talk. Once your ring came off and sh!t was real their true colors come out. Suddenly you were no longer the harmless married guy.

When I looked into those shark eyes at BD** I knew it was over...I now have a tribe of like minded guys I hang out with, I might even form a "Manestary"

**http://youtu.be/u9S41Kplsbs?t=1m31s

[Thunder]

Rookie- So what is it then with woman and married men??

Their safe, non-threatening, plus they have a proven track record of commitment.  All very attractive to women.

[Mad Hatter]

Rookie- So what is it then with woman and married men??

Their safe, non-threatening, plus they have a proven track record of commitment.  All very attractive to women.

And it is for those reasons, along with pre-selection, that mate-poaching occurs!

[LaughLoveLive]

Funny when it hit's you...Single ain't bad. It hit me when I was in the local grocery store on Valentines day last year. The place was full of harried husbands buying last minute roses and candy, none of them looked very happy about it. There I stood in my track pants and two days growth of beard suddenly smiling, I wasn't even aware it was Valentine's day. I took my bottle of merlot, steak and mushrooms home, did a fry up and watched "Flyboys" with the dog.

Made me laugh!! Love it!!

10 months divorced now,  no women hitting on me and I was wondering if I was becoming invisible to the opposite sex.

Then I read this quote from stayed.

I'm a very firm believer that we will not find anybody until we are truly READY to be with another.  I think we have much healing to do and until we are healed we are unable to love "fully".  I also believe that there are two types of LBS's.  There is the vulnerable type, that the opposite sex can spot a mile away and will rush in and take advantage of them.... or their are the "NOT INTERESTED" types.  The not interested type, gives off an aura that screams, NOT INTERESTED!  In anybody. 


When a not interested type becomes ready to live again, they attract like minded type of people.  Loving, caring, want to share their life with somebody type people.... just like themselves.   

So I'm just gonna keep doing what I'm doing and let my aura change of it's own accord.

Lanzo

I saw this post too Lanzo and decided to do the same as you ie let my aura change all on its own.

You know, I knew I was taking my life in my hands when I entered the man cave but you guys had me terrified I was destined to be single for ever given that I'm nearing 50 and no longer the same weight I was at 20.

I remember being so mad at my H for waiting til I was "fat, flabby and (approaching) 50" before he dumped me... Could he not have dumped me when I was younger and trimmer 

I'm pretty sure the time will come when I will ramp up the exercise routine and get back into the waxing  but maybe I'm happy to be invisible for now. You are all so correct saying there is healing to be done, and baggage to be sorted, and no I'm not sure I'm interested in a full on 100% committed LTR either.

[Rookie13]

Love the 'term'...'mate-poaching'... lol

I cannot say that happened in my sitch..I believe my ex sought out her OMen and under the demise that she was through with the marriage, I was to blame, and that she was 'already divorced' in her mind...

Do I believe that happens? 100% yes...