[stayed]

Wait a second!  I don't see how we are being BLAMED for how you men are being defined.  If your old Two Life Thread was so great... where is it now?  Why isn't it still in existence?  If it doesn't exist any longer, then form another one. 

Who is saying there are no DECENT men out there?  Who is saying there are no DECENT women out there?  That is bull$hit, we all know that's not true.  You are obviously FISHING in the wrong pool.  If you are not attracting the opposite sex, think about what your BODY LANGUAGE is saying.  99% of the time, it is saying... NOT INTERESTED!  LEAVE ME ALONE! 

We determine the outcome of our lives.  If we aren't happy with the direction our lives are going... then change direction... don't shove your thumb in your mouth, sit down and cry.  Get up and look elsewhere!

The reason the notice was put up on top was because we had a few... (REPEAT... A FEW) people(ok women) that were upset about the way SOME men word things... so they were given their own THREAD... where they could say whatever they wanted.  If anybody complained, we were able to point at the NOTICE and say... you were warned,  NOT INTERESTED IN YOUR COMPLAINTS!!!  If you don't like what they are saying... STAY OFF THEIR F*CKING THREAD! 

More proof, " no good deed .....  GOES UNPUNISHED!"  Damn, sometimes you just can't win for losing!  I am a woman and I have not desire to DEFINE any bloody man.  Having a hard enough time defining myself. 

Hugs Stayed

[MIMIx]

In respect of the subscriptions...

Advertising/ promotion companies buy lists of names and addresses from other companies.  They use these lists to mail out promotions on behalf of other companies.

It sounds like they bought an old list and used it to promote Cosmo magazine.  It may not have had anything to do with your ex spouse.

[in it]

And I apologize for my drunken post .

That's just what my experience with men has been. And THAT'S MY FAULT. I sure can pick 'em. 

Actually I was hoping some of the men WOULD VENT. It's perfectly normal to be angry, hurt and however else you feel about this.

And I agree with Stayed if someone doesn't like the thread DON'T firetruckING READ IT!

[Dji76]

Honestly fellas, we are only defined by women if we allow it to be that way.

[stayed]

Honestly fellas, we are only defined by women if we allow it to be that way.

Yes... yes... yes!  NOBODY defines us... unless we let them!

hugs Stayed

[in it]

My sentiments exactly! 

[honour]

Wait a second!  I don't see how we are being BLAMED for how you men are being defined.  If your old Two Life Thread was so great... where is it now?  Why isn't it still in existence?  If it doesn't exist any longer, then form another one. 

Who is saying there are no DECENT men out there?  Who is saying there are no DECENT women out there?  That is bull$hit, we all know that's not true.  You are obviously FISHING in the wrong pool.  If you are not attracting the opposite sex, think about what your BODY LANGUAGE is saying.  99% of the time, it is saying... NOT INTERESTED!  LEAVE ME ALONE! 

We determine the outcome of our lives.  If we aren't happy with the direction our lives are going... then change direction... don't shove your thumb in your mouth, sit down and cry.  Get up and look elsewhere!

The reason the notice was put up on top was because we had a few... (REPEAT... A FEW) people(ok women) that were upset about the way SOME men word things... so they were given their own THREAD... where they could say whatever they wanted.  If anybody complained, we were able to point at the NOTICE and say... you were warned,  NOT INTERESTED IN YOUR COMPLAINTS!!!  If you don't like what they are saying... STAY OFF THEIR F*CKING THREAD! 

More proof, " no good deed .....  GOES UNPUNISHED!"  Damn, sometimes you just can't win for losing!  I am a woman and I have not desire to DEFINE any bloody man.  Having a hard enough time defining myself. 

Hugs Stayed

Stayed, you know I have enormous respect for you and all that you do here, working tirelessly and voluntarily to help the LBS of both genders get back on their feet, you are truly a hero of the Hero Spouse but you must be able to see the irony of you, a woman, coming into the Man Cave, reading a man's vent, not liking what you have read and then complaining about it knowing full well that you were warned

you were warned,  NOT INTERESTED IN YOUR COMPLAINTS!!!  If you don't like what they are saying... STAY OFF THEIR F*CKING THREAD! 

[stayed]

Honestly Honour, you are right, I do find it offensive!  That being said, I have NEVER complained about anybody's thread... EVER!  If I didn't like what I was reading, I simply stayed away from that thread.  Sadly, we have SOME people who seem to feel that this forum serves only the PURPOSE for which they see it.  Admittedly, those 2 or 3 people would have a very boring FORUM but, they do tend to go on and on about things.

Therefore, I prefer being WARNED up front, then having to listen to the ones that are "offended"!  Like the threads I don't care for Honour, I have learned to IGNORE many things that I don't want to see, hear or think about. 

That's one of those lessons that good friends like OP, you, Limitless, Kikki and a number of others have helped me to accept because whenever these DISPUTES did crop up, I wanted to come out swinging!  I've learned just to NOT SEE 'em. 

I respect you too Honour, you put just as much blood, sweat and tears in here as the rest of us.  I felt comfortable in addressing what you said.  I felt it was an opportunity to explain why that STUPID heading is there. 

Just saying buddy... hugs Stayed

[bookwrmmom]

^^^^^ Ditto what Stayed and Dji said!!

Look around this forum and it is chocked full of women who are aching to be in a relationship with someone who has lied and cheated on them. Yet, men who have been loyal, loving and strive to live by principles and who have themselves suffered abuse are "permitted" approved threads that carry large purple warnings against abusive behaviour.

See this bothered me because I see just as many men doing the very same thing. As a matter of fact I believe that some of the men are actually MORE TOLERANT of some of their wives bad behavior then some of us women are. Just my observation. Yes my H has done some really bad things, but I have not excused it or made excuses for it. Not excused it with him or when talking about it to others. There are reasons for it yes, but not excuses for it. So us women choosing to remember the honorable men they were for 15, 20, and 30 years or more is no different then you men doing the same for your wives. I believe and know in my heart that the man he truly is deep down inside still there, & he is working to get him back & actually to be even better. Does that mean we will be able to R?? Not sure, & it will be one of the hardest things we have ever done.

As far as the warning goes....I take it for what it is. There are those whose sensibilities are easier to offend, and it was a warning to THEM. I think most of us know there are some really great men here, and honestly most of us ladies can hold our own in the "raunchiness" category. We can give back as good as we get.

[stayed]

As far as the warning goes....I take it for what it is. There are those whose sensibilities are easier to offend, and it was a warning to THEM. I think most of us know there are some really great men here, and honestly most of us ladies can hold our own in the "raunchiness" category. We can give back as good as we get.

Yea, what she said...   

hugs Stayed

In fact, I ENJOY a good "debate"!!!  Bring it!! hehehe