[in it]

I just got a TV about a month ago after not having one for almost two years..even commercials were tripping triggers.. The news is mostly fear based and negative..but I really like The Big Bang Theroy.

My uncle had a car the same year, make, model and color as the ex..if you don't think that didn't set me off when I saw it?  My heart actually felt like it was going to stop.  I'm happy he traded that in.

Sorry about those big white trucks Patience..sometimes these things were there all the time we just took no notice of them.

I recently bought a silver car..and when I park in the parking lot at work I have trouble finding it..I never knew just how many silver cars there are! LOL!

[Sunny]

I couldn't watch any films or TV that contained sex, romance, anything to do with relationships. I'm more or less ok now, tho it's been 2.5 years! I still get the odd email from a hotel we visited many years ago, for a long time it was a big trigger now it reminds me of happy times. Other triggers: a certain female name. Ireland, Irish accent, Bristol, babies, wedding rings. Songs by Oasis. Time helps, plus detachment.

[riverbirch]

Still can't watch much tv. News is too darn negative,home shows bother me now that we've lost our house due to this,nothing kissy,kissy. So what's left? Cooking shows sometimes,cartoons when the gs watches tv and the Walking Dead. That was even a hard one to watch. When it first came on we watched it together,then he couldn't for some stupid reason,then I started again. Mostly no interest in much anyway.

Understandable on the whole vehicle thing. Every time I would see a truck go by with a camper on it forget it. The whole anxiety think over the roof. Of course that's the place I caught them together so yeah that blew the whole camping thing.

[in it]

Yep..the ex watched the Walking Dead..I think it sucks.

 When I got this cable put in the agent asked me "Don't you want the channel that has the Walking Dead?" I said "No I don't watch that $h!te either!" She was laughing her ass off after that phone call.

Cooking shows are good! I like PBS too. ANYTHING FUNNY!

Had a problem with RV's for a while as that's what the ex bought to put the exow's sorry ass in when she sold her house. Even TV commercials set my oldest D off.

[Lanzo]

Trigger: xW voice, she has  a lovely telephone voice  and had a way of finishing a phone conversation with a whispered husky “Byee”.    So I don’t speak to on the phone, actually I don’t speak to her at all. D13 copies her mother with this “Byee” so I have to tell her to stop it.

Trigger: xW, she is not one of these MLC’er who has let herself go, in fact she really takes care of her appearance and looks good. So I avoid being in her proximity, and I even avoid looking out of the window when she parks outside to pick up D13.

So xW is my  trigger and I am No Contact with her.

[in it]

Yep those kids do end up copying what the Mlcer says..the email I got from my oldest D sounded just like him!

I thought he had gotten ahold of her computer but it was too well written.

I have certain endearments people use towards me that I have some trouble with. Some phrases I see written.

[barbiedoll]

Triggers just run end to end for me all day and night . He is a trigger . His hands are a huge trigger . His truck , especially if the passenger seat has been moved . Beauty salons , movies are almost unbearable, all the boxes still in the garage ( i close my eyes ), car pools along the highway. Any sex jokes . Anything that appears to be a form of rejection. My wedding rings ( not on my hands,, sitting on his dresser.  Showers  ( he showered with her ), sexual advances towards me when i am dressed and he unbuttons etc etc... so triggerred by that.  His "silence " is a trigger. Believe me... I could go on. However, the worst is what I do to myself and what I know happened. I know , he packed his bags with all the clean laundry and ironed shirts and went to a hotel. I know , I washed it all when he came back . I know he did that. It is hard to explain.. they are not tangible things... but we all know that passion , dopamine and adrenaline involved in new sex adventure .. I see that in the movie in my brain . And I just do not want to play anymore . I cannot top any of that . Soo... triggers are winning just now , I have no way to effectively deal with them , unless i stay so busy and preoccuppied that I avoid then . As soon as I stopped being "busy : I am slammed by them again. Cruel thing to do to your wife.

[Head.Held.High]

Songs, especially country music as that's what she played him in MY car on their first "date".  H hates country music btw.  I had recorder hidden.

Restaurants that I found receipts for, that used to be "our" restaurants.

Camero's, especially grey ones.

Women that giggle like little girls.  Again something I heard on the tape recorder.

Kay's Jewelers commercials - H bought OW an engagement ring.  He forgets I get all the alerts to our credit reports.  OW got mad at him and threw the receipt in his truck, dang why not put the ring in there!

[riverbirch]

Music can be another one for me if he's listening to it on his computer,sitting by himself. He used to post certain songs on his Facebook page. There's one certain metallic song I hate too. Patty Smythe, Evanescence, most Link in Park and I actually liked them. Hate them all.

The name Tammy or Therese. Yeah that's fun since my sister's name is Theresa! Try working for a monogramming department and getting one of those names.

Axe stink spray for men or anything like it. I hate that crap and the commercials for it.

[MsT]

Triggers just run end to end for me all day and night . He is a trigger . His hands are a huge trigger . His truck , especially if the passenger seat has been moved . Beauty salons , movies are almost unbearable, all the boxes still in the garage ( i close my eyes ), car pools along the highway. Any sex jokes . Anything that appears to be a form of rejection. My wedding rings ( not on my hands,, sitting on his dresser.  Showers  ( he showered with her ), sexual advances towards me when i am dressed and he unbuttons etc etc... so triggerred by that.  His "silence " is a trigger. Believe me... I could go on. However, the worst is what I do to myself and what I know happened. I know , he packed his bags with all the clean laundry and ironed shirts and went to a hotel. I know , I washed it all when he came back . I know he did that. It is hard to explain.. they are not tangible things... but we all know that passion , dopamine and adrenaline involved in new sex adventure .. I see that in the movie in my brain . And I just do not want to play anymore . I cannot top any of that . Soo... triggers are winning just now , I have no way to effectively deal with them , unless i stay so busy and preoccuppied that I avoid then . As soon as I stopped being "busy : I am slammed by them again. Cruel thing to do to your wife.

Oh, barbiedoll I'm so sorry.
((hug))
It is cruel.