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#120: October 22, 2013, 07:22:25 PM
Comes home to get things when no ones home.
Gets into the family photos. Hmmmm project for me. Move the family pictures.
Mail stacks up ,untouched
Disappears like a ghost
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Re: Re: Signs your spouse is in MLC
#121: October 22, 2013, 08:55:48 PM
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Comes home to get things when no ones home.

Yep, tough guy H, decided to wait until I took kids on vacation after BD before coming here to get some things, and when he did, he arrived with a big smile, announcing to the world how we had mutually split (took me ages to get over that :o), and sneakily took his things, making sure he was long gone before we got home.  Ran into the cat sitter too, and went about loading up his car, with a big smile and a look of "woohoo, look at me, I'm soo good, and most of all, I'm young and freeeeee" ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::)
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Re: Re: Signs your spouse is in MLC
#122: October 22, 2013, 09:15:03 PM
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Complains the friends of his age won't go bike riding (family men, responsibilities, hello!!) so now tries to get ones young enough to be his sons to go with him.  And then tries to be better than them. Wow, that's a real man!! ;)

Is learning Spanish with CD's. Wow, multilingual It will help him when he is travelling overseas on his bike when he travels through South America and USA.  Not sure how much he actually knows yet!

When he was still living here he would trawl through YouTube listening to all the old head banging music.  We went to see Status Quo in concert too! LOVE SQ - when I was a kid - would have gone too But also 'my old mans the dustbin man' and 'lily the pink' seemed to be played a lot.
 THAT MADE MY DAY!!!  LAUGHED OUT LOUD TILL I CRIED - OH MY LORD, LILY THE PINK AND MY OLD MANS A DUSTMAN - MY FAVES WHEN I WAS A KID.Got really cranky when I disconnected the speakers and feigned concern about the computer  ;D

What happened to him, did he swallow a Top of the Pops DVD?  He has fallen back into the 70's!!!  I feel Showaddywaddy or Slade coming on or maybe some Bay City Rollers??  Ask him to do a David Essex just for me......pleeeeeeeease!  Loved him :-*


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Re: Re: Signs your spouse is in MLC
#123: October 22, 2013, 09:27:30 PM
Snowdrop - he came across some old Top of the Pops clips too.  How did we ever wear such fashion?  Thank goodness there aren't many photos of me back in those days, the kids would wet themselves laughing.

I have a photo somewhere of H with longish hair wearing a tartan cap.  It would be worth re activating FB to post it on there  ;D. Soooo handsome!!
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Re: Re: Signs your spouse is in MLC
#124: October 22, 2013, 11:00:01 PM
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I have a photo somewhere of H with longish hair wearing a tartan cap.
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Re: Re: Signs your spouse is in MLC
#125: October 23, 2013, 01:43:30 PM
Quote from: Breakingthecycle on October 22, 2013, 03:47:16 PM
What a great thread!  This needs to be read when you start thinking that maybe your spouse isn't a typical MLCer.


That's where I am! So, yes, BTC, I agree great thread for the giving up moments.

Night sweats is getting mentioned more and more often - I think it's a great one as there's no denying when the sheets are just soggy. UGH!   :P 

A few more:

Talking in very serious tones about 'life's journey' and 'even if it leads to the precipice'...  this is the path I must take.

Living in very small, paper-walled dwelling, with very pricey car in the drive  - ie priorities spot on.

Realising past two decades were HUGE mistake. But someone else's mistake. 

Talking to LBS about OW. As if LBS were on Samaritan's helpline.  eg 'I miss her so much I could jump off a bridge.'  (That's one is true, btw.  I wish I'd said, 'That's nice, dear.' )

Texting under a cushion like a 15 year old caught with new girlfriend.

Getting excited about owning their own first ironing board and casserole dish.  At 45....

Being so spontaneous that they say something one day that directly contradicts what they've said a week ago. Who cares. Life is for rethinking, day on day.

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Re: Re: Signs your spouse is in MLC
#126: October 23, 2013, 01:51:48 PM
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exting under a cushion like a 15 year old caught with new girlfriend.

Laughed out loud at that one.

You should add these to the Script threads.  Have you read them?  I read them from time to time and cry laughing.
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Re: Re: Signs your spouse is in MLC
#127: October 23, 2013, 02:16:35 PM


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Getting excited about owning their own first ironing board and casserole dish.  At 45....

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Two comments - does he know he will need an iron to go with the board, and does he know what to do with the casserole dish?  It's not for slinging the car keys in  ;D
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Re: Re: Signs your spouse is in MLC
#128: October 23, 2013, 02:21:56 PM
Really, that's what I do with mine...damn...no one told me!
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Re: Re: Signs your spouse is in MLC
#129: October 23, 2013, 02:30:55 PM
Wants to become prime minister and sort the  country out....with this face  >:(
Doesn't trust the banks....not even the cashiers at the local branch. ???
Constantly tries to tell me what to do and how to. ::)
Ignores boundaries...I couldn't have voiced them any louder!  >:(


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