[trusting]

Jim Conway who is an MLC expert, wrote a book called Men in Midlife Crisis.  He calls the four enemies of MLC their spouse, their jobs, their bodies, and God. 

Patience, MLCers tend to be quite opposite of who they were before as it is a severe identity crisis.  If he wasn't a religious man before, he may just be "trying on" something new. Or maybe he just liked the prayer.

[Slow Fade]

My H has hit all 4 now. Left me (spouse), Lost the job he had at BD, is obsessed with his body and his health, and has stopped going to church. Check, check, check and check.

Now what?

[PatienceGalore]

Possibly, he might like it? It is so strange, because it is completely the opposite to what he would ever have put on FB and would have just laughed or dismissed such sentiments.

[trusting]

My H has hit all 4 now. Left me (spouse), Lost the job he had at BD, is obsessed with his body and his health, and has stopped going to church. Check, check, check and check.

Now what?

Mine hit them all very hard too, SF.  He didn't lose his job but instead was constantly complaining about it and it was what was causing all of his problems (well, other than me, our horrible marriage, etc.).

Now you sit back and let him have his crisis and get them all sorted out. Now 4.5 years post BD, my H's job is not his enemy anymore. I am waiting to see what happens with the rest.

[toughtimes]

http://nashlinks.com/midlife

Albatross put this on another thread, thought it was quite relevant here too!

[Slow Fade]

Now you sit back and let him have his crisis and get them all sorted out. Now 4.5 years post BD, my H's job is not his enemy anymore. I am waiting to see what happens with the rest.

Wow Trusting, 4.5 years? All I can say is Wow. I'm only a little over a year in. I don't even want to think that far just yet. How much different will I be by then? More independent, stronger, wiser, more confident......I may just outgrow my H by then!

[trusting]

Wow Trusting, 4.5 years? All I can say is Wow. I'm only a little over a year in. I don't even want to think that far just yet. How much different will I be by then? More independent, stronger, wiser, more confident......I may just outgrow my H by then!

MLC takes time.  A LOT of time.  Yes, you probably will have "outgrown" your husband, at least emotionally, long before that amount of time passes. Hopefully though the MLC will help them grow up too.  I will say that it has been nice to hear my husband speak positively about his job for the first time since even at least a year or two pre-BD.

[BB64]

Well...isn't all this so very therapeutic!

I shall make a list of all symptoms when we reach the 150 posts mark 

[toughtimes]

Booboo it really helps doesn't it, for us to see all the behaviours as script.

[BB64]

It really does. And when looking at it, personally, it makes me think that life is too short to pay much attention to any of it.