[hawk]

Yeah it's pretty damn stressful being married for sure. Lot of emotional work always going on underneath isn't there , even in the really relaxed sort of thing we had . Your still subconsciously always seem to be trying to pat at the right times and a million other things , worrying you missed something that's gonna hit the fan.

One thing about not being married now , l got so much more emotional head space and free feel . Sometimes l look at other couples end see all the usual stuff shining through and think hmm , this ain't so bad.   

[LisaLives]

I only read a couple of these, and to be honest, I respect all your pain, but the stories are laugh-out-loud funny when you are past the stage of wading in your own drool...  Init, you made me laugh, so I thought for the sake of posterity, I would add mine...

My EX's OW was a teacher when she had her affair with her first husband who was her married principal...  They married and had two kids.  Ten year later, I am not sure what happened in their marriage, but I know she cheated--a lot... Our son was diagnosed with cancer and she was trolling, and gave my husband all the support he needed and I didn't...  Yup, he said that, idiot, um, I was a bit preoccupied with saving our son, but apparently my priorities were misplaced...  She was everything I never could be (not sure what that was exactly, but the fact that she still golfed and loved watching SportsCenter was a big part of it, apparently, honesty, faithfulness and dedication to his kids were not important factors...), and she NEEDED him, and I didn't.  So, he left and married her before I even knew we were divorced...  The fact that he is now her boss means she has moved up the food chain, and I expect that in five years, before her pretty runs out, she will find another knight to help her along as my ex becomes eligible for social security and she still wants to have fun (that 15-year age difference will start to magnify)... 

In the meantime, hawk, new relationships, post-MLC can be amazing.  If you decide to try, there is a LOT of joy when you find someone who TRULY loves you, BECAUSE of what you have been through... Love and light all, ll

[OffRoad]

I only read a couple of these, and to be honest, I respect all your pain, but the stories are laugh-out-loud funny when you are past the stage of wading in your own drool...  Init, you made me laugh, so I thought for the sake of posterity, I would add mine...

My EX's OW was a teacher when she had her affair with her first husband who was her married principal...  They married and had two kids.  Ten year later, I am not sure what happened in their marriage, but I know she cheated--a lot... Our son was diagnosed with cancer and she was trolling, and gave my husband all the support he needed and I didn't...  Yup, he said that, idiot, um, I was a bit preoccupied with saving our son, but apparently my priorities were misplaced...  She was everything I never could be (not sure what that was exactly, but the fact that she still golfed and loved watching SportsCenter was a big part of it, apparently, honesty, faithfulness and dedication to his kids were not important factors...), and she NEEDED him, and I didn't.  So, he left and married her before I even knew we were divorced...  The fact that he is now her boss means she has moved up the food chain, and I expect that in five years, before her pretty runs out, she will find another knight to help her along as my ex becomes eligible for social security and she still wants to have fun (that 15-year age difference will start magnify)... 

In the meantime, hawk, new relationships, post-MLC can be amazing.  If you decide to try, there is a LOT of joy when you find someone who TRULY loves you, BECAUSE of what you have been through... Love and light all, ll

When I hear stories like this, I always wonder how the MLCer can look at himself in the mirror. Does he just not keep any mirrors around? Mind blowing.....

[in it]

I have no f*cking idea how they look at themselves in a mirror..I'd be so disgusted and ashamed of myself I don't think I could. They are a poor excuse for a human being I can tell you that much.

I really do think ALL they are banking on is those of you who still feel sorry for them...they  feel sorry enough for themselves. Why JOIN THEM?? You can't fix them.

 Ask yourself if the history of the relationship is really worth the time it will take for them to GROW UP.

Once you get a perspective it is just about the most ridiculous thing you could ever imagine. You can not make this $hit up!

Threatens my life divorces me
Moves exow into the family home two weeks after the divorce was final which took 4 months.

BEFORE he moves her in she sells her house in 9 days. He realizes he can't move her in that fast. Bought an RV and the stupid b*tch lived in that for a summer with two cats and a dog. Tells her he'll marry her then changes his mind..tells her over the phone he won't.

He moves her in ANYWAY.She's in the house about 2 months. The kids refuse to see him. He finds a house for her. In the meantime she rips off an elderly woman who's house she was cleaning.(She tells him the old woman put a bag full of jewelry in the garbage  )

He finds out she's talking to other guys. She breaks up with him once she's in her own house.

He sets her up with the stolen jewelry and has her busted. Testifies againest her and she gets convicted .

That's just part ONE. ALL of that happened in 6 months time.

[Songanddance]

New discussion thread please if you want this to continue.

[OceanLady]

Yes Hawk,  the books were a red flag.  Soon after I realized what might be going on with my H and his newly found teenage behavior, I found a receipt for a book about How To Deal With Guilt...and the workbook to go with it.   A workbook on guilt?  You've got to be kidding me!!  I never saw that book in our house.  I guess he took it to work to hide it as it was a large book.

In It,  I agree with everything that you said in post #153!!!!  I also heard the typical: You never Respected ME!!  What?  as well as everything else that you mentioned...and he treated our son terribly also.  I found this site and figured out what was going on in his Narcissistic head!!  OW (ex high school GF) had been single for 30 years and had no children; he now has all of her attention...all of her manipulating attention.   But, she cannot cook so now he has to do that also (he never did before) when he comes home at 7 or 8 at night.  LOL, funny how things turn out sometimes isn't it?   

[in it]

 

Yeah it is pretty funny how things turn out..

And l give me something TOO respect and I might.

I must say I am a little impressed the ex hasn't made any kind of contact ..guess he isn't ready to go to jail yet.