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Off-Topic Re: Wishes for a Blessed Christmas time
#130: December 24, 2015, 08:44:41 AM
Happy Holiday to all!!!

I don't know where I would be if I hadn't found this wonderful place and all of you supportive people ;)
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Re: Wishes for a Blessed Christmas time
#131: December 24, 2015, 09:27:18 AM
Merry Christmas everyone.
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Merry Chtistmas Thread!
#132: December 24, 2015, 08:44:42 PM
Hello Hero's Spouse Family,

I'm wishing you all a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! I hope everyone here is having a peaceful and happy day with friends and family. I know it may be a bit less then we hoped for and dreamed of, but I hope each and every one of us can focus on what we have this holiday season.

I recently had two friends perish in a tragic car accident on their drive to a vacation destination this past weekend. I mourn for their loss, and their friends and family who will have a much more difficult Christmas than me this year. It's a reminder that all of our lives are fragile and fleeting. It reminds me to be thankful for what I have in my life, even through the mess of MLC and divorce. I have my friends, my family and my children...Let's be greatful for the time we have here on Earth and make the best of it.

Let us all find those silver linings through these hard times and rejoice in what we have, our health, our friends and family who love us, and a positive outlook for our future ringing in the new year. Let's make this year better then the last.

Much love to all of you out there.
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Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
#133: December 25, 2015, 01:17:28 AM
Happy Christmas to all.

I echo Split's comment about life being fragile and fleeting.  That is why I guess all of us don't really understand why the MLCer would really want to throw the days/weeks/years away creating a path of destruction. We all know how precious life is and why would anyone choose to throw opportunities away.
However this is where we LBSers will succeed and thrive. We value life and living. We value every single day and once we are over the grief and initial pain of BD - we value the growth that we undergo. We heal and we become more whole than ever before.

It is hard to find the silver linings but we can.
It is hard to deal with the emotion that such a time of year throws at us but we do.
It is hard to accept that our futures will change from what we had planned but we can and we do

Make next year your year of the "can-do " attitude.

Make next year your year of growth.

Accept the fear and work your way through it.

You can do this and this forum is leading the way, guiding you through the hard times as well as behind you picking you up when you fall.

A peaceful Christmas to you all. xx
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Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
#134: December 25, 2015, 04:56:40 AM
Yes Merry Peaceful Christmas everyone.

Life is fleeting and as I reflect that I could have been killed and been just a statistic two and a half years ago put my life in perspective.

Becoming self aware is a gift. Although I don't suggest or recommend anyone experience it the way I had too. ::)

This forum is like family and without the ability to post here I'm not sure what I would have done with the emotions I had ( and sometimes still have). It helps more than anyone knows in my healing.

I am so very grateful.

My wish for everyone is peace. And keep yourself SAFE.

(((((HUGS))))))

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Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
#135: December 25, 2015, 05:36:19 AM
Merry Christmas my friends!

Love to all of you and your families.   :)
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Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
#136: December 25, 2015, 08:05:07 AM
merry chrismas to you all I hope yo are all having a woderflul time
hugs I can and will cope xx
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Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
#137: December 25, 2015, 08:05:37 AM
 Merry Christmas everyone.

The town next to ours had a call last night just before midnight for a 55yo male in full cardiac arrest. I'm sitting here this morning watching the Disney Christmas parade with my family. There are worse ways to spend Christmas. I think of the Christmas days we used to have with my wife and family and I know without a doubt that her life is not better now. I still can't help but feel sorry for her. GS7 asked me last night what I asked Santa Claus for this year. I didn't tell him this but I asked Santa to heal my wife's broken brain and to return her to her family.

Enjoy the day today with the special people you still have in your lives.
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Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
#138: December 25, 2015, 09:16:38 AM
aww mybrain is broken that made me cry an I wish the same for you too and I hope that santa fixes my husbands too.
enjoy the rest of your day hugs x
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Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
#139: December 25, 2015, 11:24:23 AM
Merry Christmas to all.

I feel full of food and for one am very happy today.

I have had a brill day with my sons, sister and her family, I cant imagine wanting to spend it with some other family you just tripped upon one day!!! truly mlc strangeness lol.

Tis the season to be jolly.

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