[Anjae]

Excellent article, IANTE.

However, I think sometimes a little bit of middle of the road is necessary. The ambient a person lives in plays a part in how a person feels.

If someone lives, lets say, in a poor, troubled with drugs, alcohol and violence neighbourhood or house, just working on the person's brain is not going to do it. Once the person returns to the neighbourhood or house, the same ambient still exists, the person will easily fall back into the same mental/emotional state.

And EEG and working on brain circuitry, will not solve hormonal problems. However, combined with blood tests, they will allow for a broad view into a person's health state/issues.

Now, how do we send all our MLCers to Dr. Asif? 

[Hmmm]

Fascinating stuff. My mum's an EEG technician. Maybe she could go into business retraining people's alpha waves-lots of money in it!
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[iamnottheenemy]

I agree, Anjae, that MLC is a multifaceted problem and a "solution" would likely have to take neurology, hormones and environment into account. Hopefully an approach like Dr. Asif's will be one more tool in the toolkit.

Funny you should mention environment - about four months post-BD, H asked me if I thought he should pursue job opportunities closer to me and D11. I replied that I thought he should stay put and work on himself without any interference from me or anyone else. Nearly four years later, he's still stuck in the same environment and repeating the same patterns of behavior ...

[scooter]

My ex was always capable of betrayal I just chose not to see that. Bearing in mind that while ex has married OW he was cheating on her during their “in-love” phase.  So how much he loved her raises a big question mark.  Having said this I do not believe he ever loved me either, he loved what I brought to his life. 


a...This really hits home for me!

[Anjae]

Nearly four years later, he's still stuck in the same environment and repeating the same patterns of behavior ...

IANTE, nearly 10 years later, Mr J is still doing the same.  The ambient a MLCer may get itself into, can, IMO, contribute to the length of their crisis.

On the other hand, wallowers (the MLCer who never leave), can remain in the same place/crisis for years on end.

Most likely the ambient inside the MLCer is more or less the same for many years.

Dr. Asif methods seem very interesting. Integrated with hormones, ambient, etc, it could really had a positive effect on a MLCer, when they are not deep into the fog. Providing, of course, it would be possible to have the MLCer accepting to attend an appointment with Dr. Asif.

A thing I'm not entirely sure is possible. But maybe Dr. Asif could be a good option once the MLCer is out of the fog.

[Velika]

Interesting article about testosterone and memory. As many of us have noticed "dementia"-like thinking patterns this may be of interest:

http://blogs.plos.org/neuro/2016/02/22/testosterone-beyond-sex/

[Anjae]

new thread: http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=7709.0