[Thundarr]

Here's a little man cave humor to start your morning...since we've all experienced our wives going through MLC, it is particularly amusing. 

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=hKWmFWRVLlU

This is the best thing I have ever watched.  Thank you for this.

[Braveheart]

Hot= Crazy has been my experince as well. My wildest couple of nights were with two different hotties, one five years later was diagnosed as schizophrenic, the other I heard through old friends was diagnosed as bipolar...That said, according to what stats are available, 25% of women are on some some sort of prescription mood altering drug anyway...

It's sad really, a great many woman 40+ I see at parties/dances drink like 18 year olds. I'm out every Friday night to my local pub, I have a couple of beer, listen to the band, play a little pool and go home. Most of the guys there are of the same pattern, a couple beers and that's it, the women are GNO doing shooters and often falling down drunk...

[Dji76]

My observation has been that the younger women 27-32 have more self respect and have their sht together more so than the early 40's group. The 40's crowd are sexually forward to a point of it being a complete turn off.

[Searching4Answers]

Hi Guys!

I have a question and I think that this is the best thread to ask it on:

What exactly does a man cave mean to you and why does it hold such importance to men? I get the part of having your own space but what else is there.

Here is a little background on why I am asking:

I have just moved out of the home that H and I shared. H has never lived alone in his life; parents, roommates, grandma's, then he moved in with me. He is currently purchasing basic things - plate, bowl, silverware, pot (singular of these words are intended - he is buying one of each because that is all he needs). He has also started to buy random furniture at flea markets, off Craigslist, etc. He told me that he is just going to buy things that he likes, he doesn't care if they match or not - ok, fair enough but he is buying crap!

I have known for a long time that H needs to be away from me and I from him - I half expected him to move in OW (this is OW1, they have been on-and-off for 2 + years) but it doesn't seem like it, which is a good thing.

So this morning the thought crossed my mind that he is turning the house into a man cave! Now I am curious about man caves

Thanks for reading!

[MeNow]

A symbol of individuality, solitude, expression. When a woman moves in they tend to make it all womany. Besides our Man Cave, the bathroom is the only other place we can freely express ourselves.

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A symbol of individuality, solitude, expression. When a woman moves in they tend to make it all womany. Besides our Man Cave, the bathroom is the only other place we can freely express ourselves.

Thanks MeNow

My H has always deferred "home" decisions to me and for the most part he has always liked what I did (I am not very girly). It makes me wonder if that is all part of the accommodating that MLCer's do.

So this looks like another fun replay behavior It would make sense though - finding his identity in a way that he has never been able to before. Maybe it will be good for him.

[MeNow]

As long as he doesn't decorate with Betty Boop pictures and sheet covers.

[Braveheart]

Good men become draft animals to their families and often loose themselves. Men primarily want their wives and family to be happy and often leave all the decorating up to them. Eventually most of us have everything we previously owned turfed out, along with our old friends and anything else from our single life. It happens to most of us slowly and without notice, when if finally sinks in most of what used to be us has faded away, we stake a claim to whatever space is left.

[xyzcf]

Good men become draft animals to their families and often loose themselves. Men primarily want their wives and family to be happy and often leave all the decorating up to them. Eventually most of us have everything we previously owned turfed out, along with our old friends and anything else from our single life. It happens to most of us slowly and without notice, when if finally sinks in most of what used to be us has faded away, we stake a claim to whatever space is left.

That was not my experience at all. Before BD, the decorator we worked together with was amazed at how well we were able to choose colors, fabrics, accessories and she was shocked when she heard we had split up. We shopped together for the house, for cars, even for tools...he liked me to come with him and I enjoyed his company as well.

I never stood in between him and his old friends and actually I was the one whose life was totally uprooted 7 times so he could climb the career ladder, but you know, even that we decided upon as a couple.

Some marriages actually do work you know where both partners share equally in the division of things at home and support one another through each other's dreams and passions. That is why MLC is crazy making, because when you have had it all and suddenly it over without any discussion or warning, then you know that something very strange has happened.

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Thanks Bravehesrt

H always said that he didn't care to make those decisions so whatever I wanted was fine. When we met he had nothing but a few boxes of stuff. He never bought clothes for him selves either - I did it. The few friends that he had he lost contact with. I can see where he lost himself - it is just sad that they have to destroy everything in order to find themselves!