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#30: January 10, 2011, 05:38:47 AM
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your right as my H has always suffered with expressing his emotions and hated me being friendly with men (i work mainly with men) whi I  I could help/support or visa versa and when he'd gone and I was sorting out his things putting themin drawers etc I found three books on 'emotional intelligence ' one mine from college days and the other he'd obviously purchased - so he was worried and wanted to sort himself out but even after reading these he didn't manage it!!
I know I cant help him I only pray he finds the strength to help himself XX

I could persuade the ladies on the 28th to come to Ireland say in April/May could you organise if we do and suggest before hand some ideas will pm you my private e-mail
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Re: If you live in the UK - want to meet up?
#31: January 10, 2011, 06:09:49 AM
One of the biggest walls to overcome to reduce male suicide plus increase support for mental wellbeing in males is the lack of access to help by them. Males find going to see health care professionals intimidating and it portrays them as 'weak'.

In the UK holding information sessions was held in local pubs to try and reduce the stigma in asking for help. The lack of understanding by men is another brick wall.

Hopefully with more focus by subsequent government's on men's health the stigma will reduce. But we as mothers also have our role to play. A 5 year old boy shows emotion effectively. By the time they reach adulthood their ability to show emotion is restricted. Something happens in the intervening years that needs addressing. Maybe we as mothers have a bigger role to play then we give ourselves credit for. Maybe our sons are safer as we have travelled this journey. Here's hoping  ;)

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Re: If you live in the UK - want to meet up?
#32: January 30, 2011, 03:57:25 AM
Hello All

I want to thank Bewildered for the Energy and planning she put into the this weekend when 10 of us met from the forum.

It was a truly wonderful weekend with lots of laughter, support and advice being given and received. Meeting posters 'in the flesh' was a privilege.

To be with a group of people who are not judgemental, nurturing and moving forward on their journey, whatever it is, gave me hope for my future with or without my H.

Without Bewildered who pulled all the planning together for such a smooth weekend, it may never have happened. It also looks likely we will meet in the future as friendships blossomed and established friendships strengthened.

THANK YOU BEWILDERED.

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Re: If you live in the UK - want to meet up?
#33: January 30, 2011, 04:03:39 AM
Hi everyone,
Firstly a huge thank you to B for helping us have a wonderful and stress free time.

It was incredible to meet you all and share our stories and drinks and laughter too. Like JA I think and hope there will be some special and lasting friendships.
I'm really sorry I missed last night, but next time I'll be there to the end!

Much love to you all
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#34: January 30, 2011, 04:07:48 AM
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We missed you last night as well. Next time we will ply you with copious amounts of wine to keep you stranded in your longboat lol

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Re: If you live in the UK - want to meet up?
#35: January 30, 2011, 04:12:13 AM
Ha, there's worse ways to be abducted!!! I like the sound of that, plus any promise of the old R&P
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Re: If you live in the UK - want to meet up?
#36: January 30, 2011, 04:17:57 AM
Hi everyone

Just like to add my big thankyou for  a wonderful time at the weekend.  It was so good to actually put faces to the names. 

I hope we can all keep in touch and meet up again sometime soon.

Thanks again Bewildered for making it happen.

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Re: If you live in the UK - want to meet up?
#37: January 30, 2011, 05:27:17 AM
Update

Our weekend of getting to know each other is over  :'(and it was fun and supportive and I feel for me it will become a very important part of the journey I am on and hopefully for the rest of you  .. we all understand the complicated pain we feel and frustration, agony and hurt we are dealing with as do all on the forum but I believe that the combination of the forum and its ability to give us information and provide instant access to worries and questions has been for us all a saviour but now we can combine the 'virtual' with another dynamic the 'real'.

This weekend, in my view, we got to know a little better 9 other people who like us have been without notice really - into this awful place MLC but are all becoming stronger and more resilient and the lessons we are learning we could share and discuss at a level that I know has and will support us even more.

We got to know each other as people more than just  a 'virtual' image. This for me has added a dimension that I know will evolve into more emotional support when needed but even more important friendships that I can envisage lasting long after we have (whatever that may be) completed our individual journey's.

Thanks to:
Justasking
Stayed
Nif Naff
Moving Forward
Crazy Stuff
Voyager
Glimmer
Mermaid
Journey To Self  ... for being part of a fun, friendly and amazing weekend

We have so much in common but are also so different and our MLC er's are so individual .. yet we where able to find we can support each other in ways no one else could... and this is where we are lucky .. as others not finding this forum have to deal with MLC without the help and support we need to become stronger.

so thank you all for your understanding, kindness, love and affection and nice to find we all love to laugh!!!! as humour will be a weapon we will always need to get us through this hey???
love B
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 PS next one being organised by Stayed for May so watch out for details  ..over to you Stayed .......... ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Re: If you live in the UK - want to meet up?
#38: January 30, 2011, 05:29:36 AM
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your post crossed mine .............yes lovely to meet you and next one is in May so if we don't find time to meet u before then see you in May but contact me anytime and Hope the shopping went well.

B xxx
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No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which one is true.”
Strength is when you have so much to cry for but you prefer to smile instead. - Andy Murray

Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. -Marilyn Monroe

"The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power." - Mary Pickford
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Re: If you live in the UK - want to meet up?
#39: January 30, 2011, 05:36:30 AM



YIPPPPEEE    Off to Stayed's  place, can't wait.  :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)
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