[Ready2Transform]

Elizabeth Gilbert, eternal MLCer. She wrote a book called "Committed" in 2010 about their relationship.    Nice to see they are "consciously uncoupling". We should get bets going as to how soon she can write a book on enlightened divorce.

[Anjae]

She has found herself, she no longer needs the MLC husband. 12 years is a long time to be together with your MLC husband/"love".

Besides, how do we know it wasn't the husband? He could be having is own MLC and wanted out. Or it could just had faded naturally.

[handpuppets]

I don't know Gayle King's story but her xH issued a public apology for cheating on her 26 years ago in Page Six in response to a Vanity Fair Q&A, http://pagesix.com/2016/07/06/gayle-kings-ex-apologizes-for-cheating-on-her/

[limitless]

Just recently went to the theatre and saw the play "Beautiful" - the Carole King musical.

(For anyone who doesn't want to be "spoiled" and plans to see the play - STOP READING NOW.








It was really enjoyable for anyone who loves her music.  I knew that she was a prolific song writer, but had no idea how many tunes she had written before she did her own album.

Her 1st marriage (which is the focus of the play) ended, as her husband (a brilliant lyricist) was completely unable of finding happiness with a loving wife, a family, and financial/critical success in a career that he was passionate about.  So, throughout the play he searches for happiness through other women, drugs (although the play really downplays this), and the club night life.  At one point he has a nervous breakdown and ends up hospitalized.  He return home to his loving and long suffering wife - only to be back to cheating on her in a relatively short time.

Finally, after years of supporting him and listening to his angst, she says "I can no longer spend my life being concerned about how you feel.  What about how I feel?"  He said that going home with her to their home and young daughters made him feel "old." 

We would all say that this sounds very midlife crisis, right?  Carole (at the time) was 28.  I don't think he was much older (they met in college).  I guess we could say quarter life crisis. 

After the play, I did a bit of reading on their marriage and what happened after they divorced.  He married 3 more times, had more children, (one out of wedlock) and passed away in his 70's.  I looked at photos of him.  At a late age, he had long gray hair and looked quite ridiculous.  Still attempting to grasp onto youth that had slipped away.

Was this a crisis?  To me, it seems more like a way of life.

Carole also had multiple marriages - one was quite abusive.  Maybe that is the music industry?  I don't know. 

What I saw in the character of the husband was a deeply troubled little boy who never grew up and was never able to enjoy or be satisfied with his life as it was.  A crisis?  I don't think so.  It was just the manner in which he lived his life.

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[Anjae]

His name is Gerry Goffin, and among others, he wrote the lyrics to Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow, that was a hit sang by the Shirelles, and The Locomotion, originally sang by Little Eva, and much latter made a huge hit by Kilie Minogue. He was three years older than her.

Since Carole also had three more marriages, I think it is more an issue of their respective ways of being, and less a quarter-life case. Maybe also the way many people were, and behaved by then in the arts & culture world. Drinking, drugs, sleeping around were all pretty common. Nowadays musicians and composers are much more clean than they were back in the 60's and 70's.

Just because someone is a troubled soul, think Hank Williams and his reckless life, does not mean one is having a quarter life, or a midlife crisis. At least I do not think so.

I think we never mentioned Richard Gere, who has been dating a woman half his age, and wanting to divorce his wife. Maybe he is finally divorced, I don't know, but the whole things was a mess.

[Velika]

Photo of Ben Affleck. Look at his eyes and face. This is how MLC manifests physically, at least in my husband's case. Puffy, confused look in eye, something sort of feminine about it. Uncanny!

http://www.justjared.com/2016/07/17/ben-affleck-takes-flight-after-quick-visit-with-his-kids/

[limitless]

He looks terrible.

[Roma]

My H's look just like that! It amazes me how much they age in such a short period of time. And the eyes!!!!! EEEK! I think the puffy is from them crying a lot.

[Nas]

On Ben Affleck: My H actually looks shockingly like Ben and now even more so as they have the same puffy, pained look and empty shark eyes.

On Elizabeth Gilbert: I bet if she wasn't so well known for the reasons she's so well known, this marriage might've ended even sooner.  I wouldn't be surprised if the unhappiness crept in a long time ago and she stuck it out longer to save face. 

[Anjae]

Affleck doesn't look so bad. I have seen far worst. Mr J, a friend who is having MLC, etc. Plus, the MLCer's look change.

They will look terrible, then fine for a little while, then terrible again, and so on.

The puffy is from the drinking. Also from lack of sleep.